This is another nice article from Cameron, later I will link it to what we talk about here....
The Secret To Never Being Rejected by Women\ by Cameron Teone
How To Get Girls Without Ever Being Rejected Again!
Have you ever had a moment where you felt rejected and ashamed? Where there were butterflies in your stomach and you walked away with your head hanging low feeling like you were going to projectile vomit from the shame of being rejected by that girl you liked? You felt like a total loser.
Remember what a piece of shit you felt like? Well, you never have to be rejected ever again. With my new system, you’ll never have that shame.
And if you send me 500 Dollars right now, I’ll share my inner most secrets, only held for my inner-sanctum club members who must sign an affidavit that they’ll never share this information with anyone again.
I bet you have seen that catchy headline in big bold letters before, haven’t ya? Quite frankly, some dating gurus do believe in that. (I’ll get to that later)
So then, how about Never Ever Being Rejected Again?
Guess what?
It’s bullshit.
Yep. Sorry, I’m the one who has to burst that bubble, but you’ve gotta admit you were a bit of a sucker for believing that headline to begin with. Before I discuss the dating aspect of all of this, you’ve got to wonder:
How did our society come to be this way?
Regardless of who you are, somewhere, sometime, you’re going to have to deal with rejection.
I want to share a story...
Several years back, I came across a girl at a house party who was a cocktail waitress. She has just moved to Los Angeles from Las Vegas. She had various tales of working in one of the hottest Casinos in Vegas. However, there was one particular story that shared three different times!
Her claim to fame, the story she liked to repeat, was that while working at the Bellagio casino in Vegas, Matt Damon had hit on her.
“Did you go out with him? What happened?” People curiously wondered. Inquiring minds wanted to know. I mean, it’s motherf**king Matt Damon. Do tell!
To which she proudly and boastfully replied with a particular roar:
“NO way!! He is so not my type”
I know! I am with you! Chances are your initial reactions were similar to mine!
Your initial gut reaction is to think “WTF? Matt Damon wouldn’t use your hair to wipe his ass if he were fresh out of toilet paper after engorging for 3 hours at the Bellagio buffet.”
Then you have to allow cooler heads to prevail and realize that this is a statement born out of insecurity. One that she had to repeat constantly and then mention on top of it that he was not her type made her feel better somehow.
It dawned on me at some point that she received more gratification from having rejected Mr. Damon than had she gone out on a date, (or perhaps just to his room for a shag.) Now, she can be boast about having rejected Matt Damon. A lot of girls may talk about having slept with him, but how many can proudly boast about rejecting him?
Yes, people’s psyche can be a bit screwed up. That’s not the point of this story....
The point is, at the end of the day, Matt Damon didn’t succeed in getting this girl. Really good looking, rich, international movie star with all of his hits in the” Ocean’s 11” and “Jason Bourne” trilogies didn’t get this girl.
Most guys reading this blog are NOT Matt Damon. Well, most guys in the world aren’t in terms of, let’s call it, “Bachelor Eligibility.” Point being, if it can happen to that dude, then it’s going to happen to everyone else as well. The key is: With what perspective do you look at it???
Well, sometimes, I like to speculate. Right about now, I am speculating that what Matt Damon probably did NOT do is run to his suite at that famous Vegas Hotel and order a “Never Be Rejected Again” product by scam–marketers on the Internet.
Trying to eliminate all rejection before ever stepping out is, not only impractical, but it’s a bit shameful. Fact of the matter is there will be times, where for whatever reason, you may be turned down. As I mentioned earlier, it may not even be by a person or a dating situation.
It happens man. You go on a job interview and you don’t get a job offer. You were by far the best candidate and the job went to someone the hiring manager knew personally. A bit of nepotism at work.
It happens. So what? Trying to live life so you can never fail is a weird proposition. Not to mention most of the guys who advocate this type of behavior would never have your back in a fight. I have no respect for that.
The fact of the matter is almost everyone experiences set backs. It’s the resilient who keep pushing forward, and we are talking about far outside the scope of dating here. You see it in business, politics, and sports, everywhere…
It’s extremely prevalent in sports. Many times, sports are a microcosm of life. How many times have you seen a sports team or an athlete fall short only to get back up to try again?
Now, in the dating world, different guys have different methods. I’ve had friends who hand women a business card and if she is interested, she can call them. (There is a way to set this up properly). Even then, they are a lot female card-recipients who’ll never call. Others may say, “I’m going to social event XYZ. Come join us.” She may or may not show.
Is that a straight forward rejection? Perhaps not, but it’s still a “Not all that interested” signal.
What does it mean? Nothing really, outside of at this point in time, for reasons we don’t really know, she is not interested.
In the same manner, YOU may not be interested in a woman. It may be her physical appearance, it may be her personality, or maybe you can’t stand dumb girls. It doesn’t matter. As far as she can tell, you’re not interested in seriously dating her. A random individual could read the above and says, “No duh. That’s common sense.“ He’d be right. It is common sense, and yet that seems to elude so many who seem to come down with a serious case of cognitive dissonance when it comes to dating and women. Their logical circuitry is completely overwhelmed by their emotional zeal to discover a new method where it can lessen the burden of rejection.
No one really likes rejection. Some people are more sensitive to it than others. Part of it is life experience, and part of it is how your brain processes information
People are writing these (Never Be Rejected Again) headlines are
Full of shit
Assuming that you’re a total pussy
That you are a sucker who’ll believe anything.
They might as well sell you a book/dvd on how to contact the tooth fairy and Santa Clause.
Some girls are not going to be interested for a wide variety of reasons. Instead of working on becoming more attractive by being more appealing engaging and interesting in general, men, get lost in the magical kingdom of trying to never be rejected again.
Now, let's make some connections to what we talk about here...
- Remember 'The Environmental Factors' (from The Kidd's article)?
if your goal is to date loads of women with as little rejections as possible (because it's impossible to not get rejected at all) and you live in a small town where the men\women ratio is bad for you OR
you live in a place like Vegas where you compete with guys who have much more resources than you (and most girls in that area are mostly about money and status when it comes to dating\sleeping with a guy) then you should consider relocating (if dating loads of women is your goal...). If you only want a girlfriend you can still get one no matter where you are, but remember that if most girls in your area are mostly about money and status when it comes to dating\sleeping with a guy (and you don't have lots of money and status) you may have to deal with a lot of rejections before you find that girl (or maybe not... if you are lucky you may approach 6 women and woman number 6 will be the one who you happen to be her type and she is not into money and status).
- The Inner work we talk about so much in here. 'becoming your own best friend' first before putting all your energy into finding girls. Fix the inside before you search outside.
- Since most of the fear from rejections comes from brainwashing that women are so sweet and perfect, you must realize that there is nothing special about women. That means read 'The Treasure Chest' The Kidd's articles and the books we mentioned on the Treasure Chest (like Esther's books).
Recently Star_Above also mentioned Dick Masterson's stuff.
- Keep working on maximizing your potential (front, clout, grooming Style, niche edge and develop the qualities you have that make you unique). This way more women will be jocking you and you will experience less rejections...and when you do: it will bother you less because you will know that you have a lot to offer so if some girls are not interested- others will be...
Matt Damon obviously doesn't care so much if that girl rejected him because he knows he has many options (Of course most people will not be movie stars and won't have his status but it's just an analogy- the more you maximize your potential in your niche edge- the more options you will have).
now here is a little story from me...
I'm now dating a new girl.
before I started dating her if you remember the story that I shared:
I was dating a girl (which I thought was a keeper), then she dumped me for a rich guy- who later dumped her - and later she called me again and wanted us to try again (I didn't want to, of course...)
After that girl I started hunting\fishing again. I got rejected by 6 girls and thought I was losing my touch or something. Then I realized that it wasn't my touch- attraction is not something you have total control over (just like a job interview)- you can show up, be the best you can be- and then it's up to them- if they think you are their best option at this point in time they will go with you- if not:
they will search for someone else....
I got rejected by 4 more girls and then with girl number 11 it worked out.
I don't think this girl is a keeper but to be honest: after The Kidd's recent story I have stopped searching for keepers. I just live and enjoy the moment and whatever happens will happen.
I'm just focusing on myself, my goals and maximizing my potential. Dating is fun but not a goal and I'm not in search of keepers. The search and work I'm doing is on 'me': finding my niche edge and how to become the best I can be.
for the full article by Cameron Teone:
http://attractwomenanywhere.com/blog/20 ... men-again/