Hey guys,
I was going to wait a bit with this post but I feel some of you need a little encouragement
I had some success in the past but within the last week things have been going way better then before. It's like I had a huge mindset shift.....
First I'll tell you guys that I'm dating a very nice girl for about a week. Things got sexual (in the bed) after the third date (in the past it used to take much longer....)
I was at a party this weekend (without her) and some girl I know (who I sometimes see when I'm with the guys) just came and set on my lap (without me asking or saying anything
).
Now, this is the weird part: in the past she never showed any interest in me and not only that- she used to always avoid me. This weekend however, she came and set on my lap without me doing anything.......
I also got crazy signals\signs of interest all over the place (some from a girl who had a boyfriend over there at the party. I think he was angry
)
And then another thing happened: I have a friend who has a girlfriend and they just moved in together two days ago. Anway, I told Her I would come by to visit and see the place.
She said: 'Ok, just tell me what you love to eat before you come and I will make it'
this might not sound like a big deal but this is the first time a girl who is not my girlfriend wants to cook for me. Even my previous girlfriends barely cooked for me. And she is not doing this to impress her boyfriend- she already has him in her pocket (she is wearing the pants in the relationship......)
The thing is, I really don't care about success with women (maybe that's why all these things happened?
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So how did I get to this place of not caring and having results?
Natural grounding? No
smile and wink? hell No
simple: I learned from people who had more success than me (here on the forum). Took the stuff that worked for me and created my own personal 'tool box'.
I have to attribute most of my success to 'the Kidd' and covert tactics. When you do observations and learn to read subtle signs, you start to see beyond the matrix that girls are really checking you out.
There is also great posts and advise here by TML which has helped me a lot
peregrinus- your posts have also helped.
The other great guys that post here, I have learned from each and everyone of you something, so you all had contribution.
As far as teachers in the industry, I learned a lot from David X and Corry Sky (more about affirmations later*). Some of Brent's podcasts also helped as far as inner game. Zan and Rion also had their contribution in my learning process (so I have to give these guys some credit too
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As far as learning from women- I have learned a lot from Gina. She is the only woman I listen to....
guys, if you want to have success there is no magic pill (like watching palmy for 15 minutes a day). I also don't beleive there is one teacher who has all the answers....we are all different so you might need to learn from a few until you have your own 'tool box' that is in congruence with who you are...
Now, note that all the teachers I mentioned above teach natural game and lifestyle. I created the section of 'value from other teachers' so that we all know who to learn from and avoid the ones who just teach PUA techniques. Maybe for some of you The Kidd's advise and the other advise here will be enough, but you have to give it a try....
Guys, this forum is priceless and you have all (or at least most) of what you need in here.
If you take the time to read and apply you will have success......
I had my doubts too and my success is not like The Kidd's or TML's success. But after this weekend and with the new girl I'm dating- I have seen what's possible and from here on I can keep growing faster.
(* instead of affirmations I'm now using alpha male subliminal messages, I just let them run in the background while I'm doing other things and this way I don't have to do much work. With subliminal messages I'm deleting the old negative programs such as: 'I don't deserve beauiful women' and it's automaticly replacing the old garbage with new beliefs that support you. If anyone wants a link to that site pm me..)