@ fufe:
I read that Washington was impotent and coped with it by his military achievements. The topic of sexual arousal/energy influencing the need (want) to achieve things in life is interesting
If you're really interested in this, and haven't yet done so, look up 'sex transmutation' by Napoleon Hill.
For me the takeaway is:
When you blame the problems on porn, you’re telling yourself “porn is more powerful than I am.” ................... Porn's not the problem - you are. But you know what? You're also the solution.
But there is much much more to this:
we all feel like sometimes, we might do something stupid or self-destructive, when sex is involved. But, this false belief is dangerous, and ultimately not helpful. Because when people buy into the belief that porn is addictive, it changes the argument, and all of a sudden, it seems like it is porn and sex that are the problems. Porn addiction becomes a label, and seems to be an explanation, when in fact, it is just meaningless words and platitudes that distract from the real issue. But sex and porn aren’t the problems. You are.
I am starting to experience that all of our problems with sex (mine, at least) stem from seeing it as dirty and a problem. In fact, I now see this as one of the possible roots of sexual jealousy. Will elaborate on this in a separate post so that anyone not interested in my rantings can ignore it.
A little while back, I was in the middle of a discussion with a group of strangers, all women, of various ages, who were making the usual "eww, gross" comments about porn, and I proudly admitted that while I don't watch a lot of porn these days, I still have gigabytes of it on my computer. The younger ones labelled me as a pervert, but in a non-confrontational, playful way, but then a 60+ y.o. woman in the discussion said "He's not a pervert. If he liked it and tried to hide the fact, he'd be one. But if he likes it and freely admits it, he isn't a pervert." All the other women readily agreed, nodding heads in approval.
It's all in your mind - how you see it, so you are.
Like Flow hinted at, this is true of many things. Maybe everything. As ever, there is no fucking spoon........