So much goodness in this thread!
Flux to your first post, joining here and seeing everything your shown to can be OVERWHELMING.
Much like when Neo couldn't handle reality and blacked the fuck out, and ATE SHIT!
Luckily Neo, even though it is fiction and a movie
had Morpheus and the crew.
So do you.
You have this forum and all the ballers on it to guide you if needed.
But NO one here is going to drive the bus for you, you gotta drive it your god damn self.
I write this, because I see your new.
I've been here since 2010 and ONLY recently am I coming to terms with things;
would've been much sooner if I committed
myself fully, but I wasn't ready.
Take things a spoon full at a time, unless you can handle a lot more.
But, from your response it doesn't seem like you can, so act accordingly.
This one is simple enough, fuck them because they won't give a fuck about you unless you are someone of value, cherish your solitude because once you do get involved with a female your peace of mind won't be there as much if at all
. It still sounds like you haven't befriended your self at all, read my signature by Tom Bay it should answer all of your questions.
This is just pure gold!
Ok, well, I'm just gonna tell you right now that your problem with women starts with the fact that you need them. If you didn't need them, the fact that none are choosing you wouldn't bother you at all, and you wouldn't feel a need to chase in order to get one.
The issue isn't the lack of women in your life, its the fact that you aren't OK with the lack of women in your life. Paradoxically, once you are OK with the lack of women, then you most likely will start having a lot more of them come knocking.
This one opened something up for me!
If you get this message it's bomb!
Or, you could take the path to work on NOT needing women in order to get more of them
(I did that); that can be a mess in itself, but can also be a part of the process.
Hopefully, sooner than later you'll realize that all this isn't even about the pussy, it's about you having a better life and a life you want.
Meraki, your squeezing the lemon and those questions where great!
I'm going to answers those questions myself and see where they go.
Flow and Meraki are right, commitment is BIG. So is, ACTION.
If you're really serious about this and really making a commitment, you might want to consider taking an intentional break from women for a while. Until you truly don't NEED anything from them, you are in a bad spot.
I've taken a leave of absence from females; 90 day challenge. The findings have ranged from hilarious to uncomfortable.
Seems like you need some time with yourself Flux.
Learn to be with yourself, and you can be with anyone.
EDIT: Know what you want.