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Last night I worked on myself and read for 5 hours. The night before I was in the research common for another 4 hours digging up old bones. I'm dead serious about this; I'm ready to jump into the fire!:evil:

My mindset right now goes as such in order from priority: empowering myself, school, friends/girls (family is obviously in the after myself).

I really want to be a playboy w/ pimp tight game. I just feel, gut feeling, that I may too deep into it and should say here, but ease of with other hobbies. I may have takin this knowledge to seriously, because since I was 17, and I'm 22 now, I've always been reading, analyzing, and pushing myself (not a very relaxing couple of years). And, sadly I don't have a harem of girls to show for it; meaning I'm probably doing something wrong.

Anyone else felt like this before?

To answer the thread title, yes.
Good, but...look at what I have italicised. What is wrong with these things?
Again, good.....but....reading in a library will not make you a pimp tight playboy. Go out into the field- Observe, be, experience, come back to the notes aaannnnd Go out into the field - Observe, be, experience, apply your knowledge/theories and repeat. Analysing before the experience is stagnation.
Good. Friends, girls and Family should be after-thoughts.
And sadly, you are too attached to an idea. What do you really want? If it is a harem, then why? Ask yourself this, I'm not asking because I need to know.

But if that is what you want, then you are too attached to the idea of it and the attainment of it. Get me?

Back to the first quote- Reading is just that, an activity. It can help, but working on yourself entails putting away the books which have been written as a culmination of the thoughts of OTHER people, and to just be with yourself. Dig where you need to dig, and keep searching within yourself, not within an external reference. I think you may fear an actual experience, which is why you hide in literature and the opinions of others.

In my humble motherfucking opinion.

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All is more simple than you make it.

@Rolan


As for reading too much I want to say I do play the field: in class, chatting up randoms, BUT that being said your right I: I do do such a thing. I fear experience. I try to be perfect before hitting the field; that's the TRUTH!
I am still asking the WHY in my desires~possible why is to feel good, which is not a good why to me.

I don't get "I'm too attached to the idea and the attainment of it". Can you elaborate on it a bit.

Sounds like your only doing the inner work for the women. Hence, ur not actually being indifferent.

I'm sure if you looked at yourself when u were 17 and compared it to what ur like now, there would be a huge difference

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5uEciP8ve5U

This is for you Dude

A harem of women will not make you feel good. You cannot find that feeling externally. Feeling 'good' is something that has to be had without any sort of possession.
Yes. Having a harem of woman is just an idea. What I mean by this is that a harem is some sort of concept, attainment that you believe you ought to have in order to validate yourself, or feel 'good', as you say.

You have to ask yourself whether the idea of a harem of women is a desire of the mind or of the heart. It's perfectly attainable, but if it's a desire of the mind(i.e-to feel validated by others, especially women) then it's a dead end street. However, there's no reason why you shouldn't experience it, because then you'll know for yourself as opposed to taking my word for it. The catch-22 is that to have this, you're gonna have to detach from needing it. You're also going to have to do your inner work, so just focus on this, and things generally will fall into place. You care too much. When i'm at my most attractive and coveted, is when I don't really care who's around me.

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All is more simple than you make it.

I agree and yet disagree at the same time. Most here have probably begun this inner work as result of an experience(usually so called negative) with a broad(s). And so most start the work from a place of need to be more 'successful' with them. However, it's part of the journey to realise that it was never about the girl at all, but about how us. It starts and ends with us. So Dude will naturally learn this in time, but he has to experience it for himself.

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All is more simple than you make it.

He'll get there, provided he takes what Kidd!! says to heart and let's it sink in.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

He's gonna be a frequent flyer...my gut says it's really not gonna sink in anytime soon. He's got it in his head that this transition is going to be a lot quicker than it is actually going to be.

Dude, much disappointment awaits you before you can stop bullets...in the meantime you'll be lucky to dodge a few and THINK that you're ready...but YOU WON'T BE. What you do after that realization will ultimately determine your fate.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

Spoken like a true doesn't-sell-weekend-long-master-everything-$3,000-bootcamps kind of guy.

Even after things click and you finally "get it" with something, all that means is you then get to start the far more interesting journey of actually implementing and integrating it.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTXz8xMaJi4

Hmmm

Didn't mean to send that, my bad, I'm typing this from my phone.
Some really positive inspirational advice there haha

I ain't about being positive...I'm all about being realistic.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

If you have to ask, the answer is YES

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Sometimes being "realistic" is what the problem is for some people. What is it that you think he needs in order for him to turn his life around? In your opinion, just curious. Obviously something is missing for him right now.

Here's another video for Dude to hopefully get him a little more motivated.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-1csNcTKnLM

Don't give him anymore video's. He already has enough to hide behind until he's 'ready'. He can't be given another excuse to divert from his inner work.

Dude, y'know what- Throw away all your books and notes. Get it all down to a minimum. Anything related to self-help or seduction, just chuck. Yourself is all you need. You'll feel better, I'd stake my life on it.

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All is more simple than you make it.

There's nothing wrong with trying to achieve your goals...in the beginning you want lots of pussy and the ego gratification of hot girls chasing you - You then realize they're a pain in the ass, it's not as good as you thought it was and sex gets old after you've fucked a lot, but you have to go through that to know, so have fun

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The honey doesn't chase the bee.

A wise man once said "I find that a duck's opinion of me is influenced by whether or not I have bread."

What I just gave him...a reality check.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

I think this scene from the matrix sums it up.

Morpheus: Do you believe in fate Neo?
Neo: No
Morpheus: Why not?
Neo:Because I don't like the feeling I am not in control of my life
Morpheus:I know exactly what you mean

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"The heart is deep beyond all things, and it is the man. Even so, who can know him."