What specific examples of "hurting someone" that you could never do are you referring to? What stance do you interpret as "hurting someone"? That term is your projection and will reveal a lot about yourself to you.
Being unattached or not tolerating things has nothing to do with 'hurting' - hurting = taking specific actions with no intention other than to do harm. There are many sections I have not read but highly doubt anyone encourages active revenge or going and punching someone in the face, etc.
Doing what is best for yourself or a situation can be very uncomfortable and not what the person wants. Avoiding discomfort/confrontation is a very different animal than 'not hurting.'
I'm known for telling people shit that gets them mad, sad and then they understand it helped them in some way - It has been what they needed to hear. That's ok for me since it helps them in the long run.
But I can't do anything with the intention to harm, even if it doesn't actually harm (the person doesn't care, etc) and it would be just in my head. It just goes against my beliefs and values.
But yeah, one thing comes to mind - It's hard for me to be hard on women I like.. And when I convince myself it's time to be asshole, I'm mostly overdoing it. Other times I'm too soft, I just can't find the balance.
You are pleased by helping people- that's a great thing. If helping people is your genuine passion in life, then you already have a lot of insights into your path. Volunteer/charity work.. healing work.. do what you can to help those you deeply need your help for the sheer joy and satisfaction it gives you.
Is it good enough, just to have a path of helping people ? Lots of people seem to show up and tell me I have to have ambitions, to take on the world etc... But I don't really feel the want to do that.
If you on the other hand are talking mostly about doing "nice things" for women, primarily women you are attracted to (or your family who you 'get' a lot out of having good relationships with), then don't kid yourself. This is adopting moral superiority as a form of resistance. I have no idea if this is the case for you or not, that you must examine for yourself.
Not at all, luckily..
@Morpheus
I still don't know what you mean by that.. Interest in cars and motorcycles or what ?