This is something that at first I had a hard time accepting however like Morpheus said:
'It's also a blessing in disguise. The pressure is on them not you....'
Fix'd
Yes its a a belief that has been drilled into you since god knows when so it will be sometime before you can truly accept it. My example is I went out last night with my boys along with a friend of ours we have known for a while now I believe she was into all of us. The indications of how she dances provocatively has me touching her parts of her body to feel on. I make light conversation just to keep it somewhat engaging but the other 2 I let handle it because they were on the hunt for ass more than I care to.
I felt she was attracted to me the most because I gave her (here comes Grinus favorite part)
Space I didn't do nothing but conversate and felt on that big ol onion booty.
I didn't take it any further because my boy likes it and I know she is into him to but he has this ego thing where he must always be dominant especially when he is drunk. If he just calm down and let that pop off I'm pretty sure he would've bee in some ass but he basically ruined it for himself by doing what he was doing.
I personally did not care one way or the other and it felt good I think having this mindset is very important to have gain back the freedom from yourself.
on one hand it's not the 'get any girl you want' - something that a lot of PUAs say in their marketing pages. On the other hand: there are a lot of girls that you think you want-
but when you get to know them you find out that they have issues and stuff and that it's not really what you want...
Agreed once you get past physical beauty and find out more about her to see if she will bring up or bring down your life. Everybody has issues and I don't care what woman it is or how cool she is to someone else she is a pain and a headache on some level. The degree of what level of headache you put up with is on you.
Also as Kidd said: what you really want is often not what you think you want.
Example:
when it comes to physical beauty:
When you do observations you see that many times the girl that a lot of people see as a 10
will only be a 7 for You.
and while some girls see you as a 7, for other girls you might be an 8 or a 9...
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder or your own perspective of what you find attractive. This one I still have somewhat of problem with because I still have this thing of seeking approval but it is not as strong as it use to be but I want to eradicate it completely so it will no longer be in the way.
remember that when I was young I thought that Pamela Anderson is not so attractive. yet everyone around me kept telling me she is a 10 and I'm crazy for not seeing it.
so At one point I started to
believe that she is really a 10
Fix'd
Uggh
I thought she had a hot body for a long time when I was a kid but I didn't know any better about the plastic surgery or implants back then but as I look back on it and see her now I don't know what I thought I saw in her, but she doesn't turn me on whatsoever anymore.
Actually no female has that kind of effect on me like they use to I still like tight bodies but it doesn't matter to me as much anymore. What gets me off now is flipping the script on these ho's
Pussy doesn't fascinate me as much now soon I won't care at all.