Allow me, brother 'Grinus.
1) I believe the defining factor to be self love. Once you TRULY love yourself and are COMPLETELY comfortable in your own skin...THAT'S when the magic starts to happen...once you are at peace with YOURSELF. Everything I preach...front/clout/etc...are just common physical/mental manifestations that, once achieved, lead MOST men to this place, that, like you said, is so tricky to articulate. Most people base progress on tangibles...hence my approach.
2) The 'divider line' you speak of is, put simply, a lack of congruence with self. Without self congruence, you see the world from your eyes and not others...or you THINK you know what others think of you but it's really still just a projection of yourself. Once you have attained self congruence, you can then accurately see how each person views you REGARDLESS of how you view yourself...your ego will be removed from the equation, which will allow you to act appropriately and awarely in ALL situations. Once you get to this point, the only reason why you won't get a favorable outcome in a given situation is because YOU didn't want one.
Thanks for the answer TheKidd!!
This day I'm in rabbit hole tracer mode.
So I have another questions, How do you define ego?
Is the complete sum of toughts, feelings, emotional attachments and perceptions based on a "character" you didn't created until today, if you are not aware of this, so to speak. You mean one should logically remove the ego, this in fact recognized being a deconstruction of the character, slaying your "old" identity, shred it to pieces? Don't want to sound so melodramatic, but this sentences you wrote tend to indicate that, and for this I did it like two months ago. I recomend this process, altought is a VERY frightening one.
And if removing the ego from the equations leads you to "remove the divider line" that we think separates "internal & external" world, then.... who stays there to LOVE... I mean If I have to self love me to be congruent, what will happen with the posibility that I don't belive anymore in the games my brain/mind plays, hence I don't have any internal "character" to love, like noone to give love, not even myself...
Sorry this is a weird thing for me, or maybe I'm complicating it, but my inquiry is honest.
Thanks again for your flawless reply.