A woman will always put herself into a position for you to "take the lead" if she is interested.
I said all of that to say this: Never second guess yourself...and trust your gut. If you think a girl is putting herself in a position for you to talk to her, 8 times out of 10 she probably is.
Really nicely put Kidd.. Good example also, gave me some flashbacks to events
Thanks for that
In the past before people kept slinging slang and all this terminology at me, I referred to these events in the following way:
: Woman/girl doing something to bring herself into your awareness - being in line of eyesight, doing something at a distance to draw attention while it not overtly being aimed at you. Think of a group of girls going all high energy, there is a usually a reason - they are trying to get someones attention. Someone who was not in your line of sight moving into it and staying there, going more high energy or coy(to draw attention). Volume rapidly going up. Someone repeatedly moving around to make sure they stay in your line of sight.
These can range from very subtle to gob smackingly overt, usually at a distance though.
: Repeatedly passing by, close enough to your awareness radius that you end up recognising it, or it getting your attention. Will often do this at a distance, then gradually hone in distance wise until she has hit your awareness radius and knows that you noticed her in some way. She will be very aware of when she has, regardless of what you think, women seem to have a real awareness of this.
: Putting herself close to you or in your way, so you have a real good chance of either running into her, talking to her if you want to. No real way you cannot notice her unless your head is on mars at the time. She has approached you without the opening bit, not usually face on - side on or half facing, real close to you.
: Anything along the lines of appearing near you, walking up to you and facing you full on and plainly opening you.
As spaceman added women can be very subtle, quite a lot of times, it will be a subtle test of your interest. They want to draw your attention, see how you react to it before they go further. That way there is no risk of rejection or making a fool of themselves, they also do this just for fun and the excitement of it. Think of girls playing, hyping their emotional state and enjoying the feelings that this gives them.
Some do it for kicks, because they love the feelings and emotions it gives them, for validation and for pure interest. Your reaction to what they are doing tells them a lot about you as a man. It is a very subtle test of your character, the way you react to it is very telling. Just as if you do it as a man to a woman how she reacts can tell you a lot about her if you pay attention.
It is a sliding scale, on some level she is trying to get your attention and judge your interest to her, get a read on you and move the interaction forward. She is making herself available in some way, main difference being how much.
It ironically enough is also a really good test of your options. If you are a man used to scraps and not getting much you are more likely to jump at the slightest sign and react to it. If you are a man used to getting these signs and displays from women it will probably take more for you to notice her and react to it. The reaction you have is also very important to her on a gut level, are you observing it and calmly taking it in, or are you doubting it, or do you really just not notice even if she is right in your face. In this way she can judge how used to getting attention from women, how aware you are and how 'needy' you are for the attention. It really is quite clever if you think about it.
As Kidd said in his post, once the girl had seen how he reacted and given how she was behaving, when she got the green light from him (I have noticed you and reacted and told you non verbally that I am open to you approaching) she felt safe in approaching him and being quite physical. She relaxed because of what she had seen before she even got close to him, she had read a lot from him before this point because of the way he had responded and reacted throughout the whole 'dance'
Some need to get more of a read on you first before they either feel comfortable doing it or feel they are not making a big mistake with you and have read you totally wrong. Some will just be balls out and walk up to you as they have seen enough from watching you from beyond your awareness radius and are sure of what they have seen, not needing confirmation or any kind of evaluation before approaching.
Vegano: sorry to have slightly hi-jacked your thread, I feel this is a worthwhile discussion with a real world scenario that you presented.