Love these short and simple threads!
Society's rules set you up for this...but since we don't play by society's guidelines therein lies our advantage.
In other words, always treat them accordingly...no matter what.
This is a really nice way to think about it.
This where YOUR boundaries as a man come into play.
You let her run free in a field.. That field has boundaries, all fields do, sooner or later.
The boundaries define what she can and cannot get away with.
If she manipulates you, it is because you let her.
If you let her, she will manipulate the fuck out of you, until she hits a boundary.
Esther's take on it is when men have allowed society to erode their boundaries. Which is the current state of a lot of societies around the world. Sad but true.. She is commenting on the way things are, not how they could be. [As Kidd says]
If you put them back in place, the woman can run free with her feminine, while respecting your boundaries, which she has to do because you enforce them.
Both books are missing parts of the puzzle, as are all books.. Seeing the hole allows you to see the questions you seek.
I want to quote this because I had a hard time defining my own boundaries when I was younger. I wanted other peoples approval so much that a lot of my boundaries were tied to what others thought of me. And I didn't even really realize that was the case until way down the road.
This led to a lot of projecting and not being authentic because I was holding up boundaries that weren't important to me.
My boundaries should be there because they're important to me and not because they might help me attract more X or Y. I didn't get that when I was younger.
And I want to end with what this reminded me of, "it's not what you say, it's how you say it