I'm not so sure about this logic, actually.
Girls are looking for "mr right" because they've grown up with Disney movies depicting Prince Charming sweeping and rescuing girls from left and right, danger or no danger. She's expecting roses, lovely hair, long dresses, twirls in parks, carriages, and a glittering ring. Now, true, a lot of girls, especially college age, are mostly totally game for no strings attached situations - it seems. I think a lot of girls sleep with men in hopes that they can suddenly make him feel like she's the one, and he won't want to sleep around or party anymore. This results in a lot of hpes built up, expectations lost, and ths a lot of hurt, and believe prince charming doesn't exist, no guy will fall on his knees for her.
This is why, as she gets older and has more experiences like this, she loses hope, and drops her standards, suddenly feeling all guys must be like that, and settling for the next best one, or the guy who has felt burnt out too.
Now, I'm lucky in the sense that I'm young, just graduated from college, yet have met the love of my life there in my junior year. He was a major manwhore, I've accepted it, and told me upfront this would be a fling, maybe once a month, who knows. Turns out, he fell head over heels and I wound up being that girl that stopped his behaviour and change him around. He's already talking about kids and marraige and I haven't even thought about an engagement anytime soon >< I've always put careers and personal achievements before men; i wasn't expecting this at all, mostly because I have been let down by men time and time again.
Unless I'm wrong about this, I feel it's probably men who compromise themselves more in the end - having high expectations for women, but not exactly looking for the one early on, until he realizes he may be "running out of time" and then gets into panic mode and perhaps then compromises himself or his standards. Either way, I think there's more than one angle to look at this matter.
hey LM,
I see your point and I have heard about this Prince Charming thing and the Disney movies. But you know there are so many guys out there who treat women like a princess, buy them flowers, take them out to twirls in parks and etc...
and in the end women either use these guys or leave them for bad boys\jerks.
And let's face it: most girls today don't act like the sweet princess. You probably know that a lot of women are ugly in nature (unlike the good and sweet princess in the movies). There are a lot of good men who treat women well but after they get manipulated or burned by them become manwhore\playboys.
As the saying goes: it takes two to tango... If most women were good in nature and treat men well (like the princess in the movie) then most men would treat them good and be serious with them.
Edit: LM you wrote:
yet have met the love of my life there in my junior year. He was a major manwhore, I've accepted it, and told me upfront this would be a fling, maybe once a month, who knows.
is this your idea of 'Prince Charming' you saw in the movies?
I think that says it all....