Now I have a question (and I'll move this thread to the treasure chest tommarow
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it pretty much shows that the only intrest a woman has in you is in your value, which just makes them users.....but can you ever really truly care about someone that's just using you for what you can do for them?
I agree however isn't it the same with men?
two examples:
- I'm with a woman for a few reasons, for the example let's say:
- She is great looking and I feel attraction for her on a physical level
- I can show off to my friends on what a great looking woman I have
- She cooks from me
- she makes me feel great on an emotional level because she is always telling me what a great guy I am.
So in other words I'm getting some value from the relationship
Now let's say that this woman no longer provides me any value.
- she stopped caring about her looks and gained a lot of weight
- she no longer cooks for me
- she stopped telling me what a great guy I am so on an emotional level I no longer feel good with her.
so by this example: you can say that her value went down and so I would not want her anymore, would that make me a user?
am I a bad man or any different because I no longer want her because she can no longer provide me what I want?
Another exmaple:
I have a friend and I'm friends with that guy because:
- he is a good friend that I know I can trust.
- he cares about me and I care about him
- he makes me laugh
- I love his energy
Now let's say that the same guy is now depressed so he no longer makes me laugh and his energy is all down.I would still be his friend because I'm still getting value from the friendship....
But now let's say that besides the fact that he no longer makes me laugh and his energy is all down he did something bad to me and I found out that I can't trust him anymore and he is not a good friend.
At this point I'm not getting any value from the friendship and I cut it.
Does that make me a user?
I think every friendship or a romantic relationship is based on exchange of values (two people giving and getting value....)
it's the way it works and so All people (Men and Women) are users in a way