I think Brent always got laid, probably not as much as now but he definetly got laid. That "I wasn't at all good with women till I was 30 when I met some ugly midget that showed me the way" ...which is a very popular marketing scheme guys like Zan, and probably the rest of them also, uses that it makes me sick...
I don't beleive that Brent was a loser with women until 'some ugly midget' showed him the light no more than I believe that Rion was so bad with women until one day he saw the light after watching pretty asian smiley girls on youtube (And as I mentioned: that Marcus dude that people worship on realm: he looks like a model and has a high paying job in London which grants him a high social status. He didn't become a ladies men just from 'natural grounding')
And so what if they says so, does that make it true?
Like you, I beleive it's a marketing pitch used by a lot of teachers in the industry such as Zan and Adam L. More about those guys here:
http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopic.php?f=15&t=675
http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopic.php?f=15&t=673
However, that does not mean that Brent, Zan or even Rion are full of shit and that their advise is worthless.
there is the other side of the coin which is believes and knowing your value. That's why you often see ugly or broke dudes get laid with beautiful women (more on that later..)
For whatever reason the typical community guy joins the community after seeing for like 20 years good looking guys "scoring" hot girls in highschool and so on....but suddenly when they see Brent Smith with a hot girl they're like "did you see that? that guru hooked up with that gorgeous babe". Wake up, people! Stop being so easily impressed by things that you've seen all your life happening.
more on that later
And all this "I wasn't getting laid cause I wasn't confident" thing... come on, guys...cut it out. That doesn't imply that all your attributes that other people don't have aren't helping you. By not being confident or lacking observation skills...you simply stopped something that would normally happen... now that you're confident you're simply letting your physical qualities do the job...
The other side of the Coin is:
Remember that all women are different....
Some women will only go out with a tall guy, other girls love a sense of humor and they don't care if the guy is tall or not. Some women love the bad boy alpha male and some love the shy guy. Some women love intelligent guys (as long as they are not boring) and some women are shallow and don't care if the guy is intelligent or not. Some girls love Black men and some will only date white men.
It's the same with guys: some want big tits, for other guys it doesn't matter that much.
I love Asian women, some men don't like that kind of beauty. I love dark skin and black women, my cousin only dates white women because he does not like black or dark skin. I could go on but you see my point?
So as The Kidd said: find out what makes you unique and develope that.
More about beleives:
I see ugly dudes or broke slobs who you'd think would have nothing to offer women. And yet, they still get beautiful women. Why?
because they beleive they can. They didn't let society tell them that they can't get women because they are like this. Take David X for example:
he is short and I don't think he was ever that good looking (even when he was young).
What did he do?
he didn't listen to women who told him that he is not tall or good looking enough. He just went after what he wanted and got it....
What did society teach us about being an attractive man? We labeled it "social conditioning"...but have in mind that ALL GURUS have some of the qualities that SOCIETY taught us to be attractive. I'll make a post about this and why I believe some gurus get laid...besides being confident.
well, I answered this above but I'll add something. There is another factor in which The Kidd talked about and that is: The geography factor.
In the Ukraine for example: tons of beautiful women and most men over there are drunk, drug addicts or just bums. So if I go there (for example) my stocks would rise much more than in Israel. Philippines: about three women to every man + Asian women love white men so when people from the west go there their stocks naturally rise. And if they have money then:
that's even more stocks for them.
<<<There's much truth in Cory Skyys words when he writes "if you put me in your physical body, the way you are right now I would still have great choice with women no matter how big you are tall, short, old skinny etc." >>>
How the fuck does Cory Skyy know that? Is Cory Skyy a shapeshifter?
This is something we will never know for sure I guess....
put Cory Skyy in Sean Stephenson's body he will have 100% the same results... it's just retarded...no offense
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Of course not
saying something like put me in any body and I'll have the same success rate is a bold and false claim. However I beleive that with his mindset he would still have success if you put him in an avrage body. Maybe not 100% success rate but he will have some success (notice I said avrage body not Sean Stephenson's body or in a body of a really fat man)
no offense for Sean Stephenson
Sean Stephenson found what makes him unique and developed those qualities and built himself up. I don't think he gets models but I beleive he does have success with decent looking women. But Sean Stephenson is kind of extreme example you know.....
Bad looking guys that are very confident usually get laid because girls get intrigued "Why is he so confident?"
Women love confidence even more than looks. So to answer your question: Yes!!
Now I imagine two guys:
One of them is a "fat ass mother f*cker" eating pizza all day and playing video games. He stumbled upon the community and found these "visualization guys" and started doing affirmations and visualizing for an year or so while eating pizza and playing video games. At the end...he was a pretty confident fat pizza eating guy who plays video games. The other guy was also fat and a WoW player. He thought he should stop living like that, started working out 3 times a week, completely changed his eating habbits, started doing cardio and in 8 months he was fit and looked great. In the 12th month .... the guy looked in the mirror and said "Wow.... damn! This is something. I'm looooooooookin' gooooood!" He didn't needed any affirmations, visualisations, getting over resistance and shit like that.... resistance is probably your body telling you you're doing it wrong and you shouldn't lie to yourself. He also got a big confidence increase from the continous progress he was making. Seeing that you're good at something and evolving is a much better way of evolving than tricking your neurology. Now which one of these two guys will be more succesful with women? The guy who's a fat pizza eating WoW player but with an increased confidence from lieing himself with visualizations ....or the genuinely confident fit guy with a healthy lifestyle ?
Of course affirmations are not everything. One needs to develope himself and be the best man he can be on all levels (as The Kidd said). If a guy is eating pizza all day- even if he says all day long: I am healthy, it's not going to be true and he knows it.
However: If a guy went to the Gym and he now looks great but his inner beleives are still:
I'm a loser then he can work with affirmations to accept 'the new him'.
A few years ago I felt like a loser and no matter how many times people told me what a great guy I am- I never beleived them (because I felt like shit from the inside).
example:
People used to come to me for advise over and over again because they thought I was smart.
No matter how many times people kept coming to me for advise and told me I was smart: I never believed them. Now that I feel good about myself, if someone thinks I'm smart and tells me that: I will beleive him. Cause I changed my inner beleives such as: 'I'm not good enough or I'm not smart enough'.
I've asked my best friends that get laid a lot if they think they're "sexy mother fuckers" and they all said "not at all". Being an ugly guy and thinking you're Brad Pitt is just lame... I've met plenty of modest guys getting laid a lot...
After talking to many people and so on...I believe it is way more important to NOT FEEL UNATTRACTIVE than to feel like you're this super-sexy individual
You don't need to think that you are a sexy mother fucker. That's just one of Corry's affirmations that he uses because he feels it's a good affirmation
for Him.
It's enough to just know that you are an attractive guy in whatever way:
it doesn't have to be looks. Find what makes you unique and go with that....