Video: "Stefan Molyneux: Saying No To Marriage"
It's a long video (over 2 hours), so here is my patchy notes and overview. It's straight from Onenote, but you guys will figure it out.
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Stefan Molyneux: Saying No To Marriage
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=imcQrPW-A-Y>
@ 30:00:
- Why they say: "Untill death do us part".
○ The affect on grandchildren, allows the grand parents to easier be part of the childs life.
- Society is more stable when men marry 1 woman.
@ 40:00:
- What happens after divorce to the kids:
○ The mother gets custody (most of the time).
○ Start hanging out in the lower brackets of society, and that affects the child badly.
@ 45:00
- Poor vs Rich mindset: VERY GOOD POINTS
@ 48:00:
- "How to reduce your risk of divorce"
○ Delay marriage until the age of 25, then the risk goes down 24%!
○ Living together before marriage, not good.
○ Second or Third marriage, the risk increases!
○ The more assets the couples are bringing in to the marriage, the lesser the risk.
§ People who have more money, tend to be better at negotiation, are more cool-headed.
§ Don't get involded with people w/ money issues or are bad iwth money.
§ The higher the debt the couple has, the higher the risk of divorce.
○ Education. The higher the education, the lesser the risk.
○ Pre-marriage conciling helps to bring down the risk.
§ There you learn to difuse arguments before they blow up into fights.
○ If one spouse comes from a broken home (divorced parents), the risk increases with 50 %
§ And that's 200 % if that's applies to both the spouses!
○ Age difference: The risk declines, where the husband is between 2-10 years older than the wife.
○ Number of sexual partners: the lower the better (for women, no data for men).
○ Age at first sexual ecounter: the later the better.
○ Lowest divorse rates for Asians, then white, hispanic and then blacks (I assume he is talking about USA).
○ If you come from a big family, the lesser the risk.
§ Then she/you has learned social behaviour with both genders (your brother and sisters).
○ Marriage has others good affects, for your health, both mental and physical.
§ It's not fun to be single at 40-50 etc.
§ No one to share you stuff with etc.
○ Because the quality people has married and stayed married.
§ Just like the used-car analogy
§ Like a thrift-shop: everything in here is something that someelse doesn't want!
○ You get married when you are at your greatest value, and then you pick your best option w/ minimizing the risks.
§ Also divorce doesn't have to be bad.
§ Stefan had cancer, how terrible would that be if he had been single?
○ There are 30% higher risk of death for unmmaried single men.
○ And there is always risks of marriage, but there is risks of not getting married (like dying!, worse for the children, personal economy etc.).
Why the information is hidden
@ 1:07:15
○ He derails a bit here.
@1:45:00:
○ Marriage is the best interest for men, because with it he will get the highest quality women.
§ And it's best for his children.
@1:48:00:
○ Smart people understand, what was common wisdom in the old days.
§ Do I have to always be right in the now? And put everything at stake?
§ Smart people thinks long term.
@1:58:00
○ Stefan: In my experience the quality women are attracted to thrust, and low quality women are attracted to you with lack of thrust.
○ Kids of divorce are more sexually hightend, are more towards R-reproctive sexual strategy (where sex is apart from connection), while children from good homes are towards the K-strategy (sex with connecetion, long term, stable).
§ The short-term sexual strategy (R-strategy) is geared towards a life expectancy of 24.
§ That's what divorce does to the children.
@ 2:15:00
○ What was common wisdom in the old days, is welheld today. That's why so many have made bad decisions (single mothers, people having alot of sexual partners etc.).
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