You make me feel welcome. Thanks.
Could you please elaborate more on that? what exactly changed in your behaviour?
Answering this question is a long post but I will try to keep it as short as I can. I believe it was few things working together. I read "Manipulated Man" and it made me angry for some time but it also made me realize what I bring into the table. Once I realized that I have done my part correctly I knew I don´t want to live with someone who doesn´t want to do their share. I don´t say she was a bad mother but rather that she was not such a good wife. I was ready to take the L on that. That translated in a behaviour.
I also took more control. I open those pickle jars. There are things that I just don´t expect her to do and do it myself.. like check why the car is not working to give an example. I just let my protective instinct do its job here.
What I also did was to split up our common wallet. Now I make my money and she makes hers. And guess what? She has 2 jobs now... and likes them both. I still earn more so I feed them all, but clothe only my children and myself and don´t sponsor any activities of hers. I will lend her money if she really needs but I will expect it back.
Last quick thing that comes to my mind: in bed I do more of what I wanna do and not worry as much weather it is something she likes or not. Its better this way. Its stops me from being overcautious. I don´t treat her specially nice after also, just so she doesn´t get any ideas that she can make me break my rules by means of pussy control. Also if she turns down my dick I make her wait for it next time she wants it even if its hard for me.
There you have it.
cheers all