The Problem With popular media and Men Today\ by John Alanis
let me tell you a story…
I grew up in the 80’s, when hard rock and heavy metal ruled the musical world.
Music was all about good times, attracting women with no excuses, and reveling in male
energy. Girlie Men were reviled, and manly, aggressive men were worshiped (even if
they had long hair and dressed outrageously). Women may have said they didn’t like the
music, but they sure as heck loved the band members—if you lived through that era,
you’ll remember hot, desirable women were everywhere.
Fast forward to today. Music is now about whining about how bad you feel, how
men are so unworthy, and how women are unattainable. Traditional male behavior is
discouraged and made fun of by the popular media. Look at today’s TV shows and
movies. Men are portrayed as slow, dull, lumpy buffoons, made fun of, tolerated, and
eventually rescued by the “strong women” in their lives. They’re “in touch with their
feelings,” constantly worry what others think about them, and are always on the verge of
an emotional breakdown. The implication is, they’re inferior to women, and should be
subservient to them.
Unfortunately, this garbage has been going on for a generation, thanks to all the
girlie men who have infiltrated the media. Today’s man has been exposed to this stuff
for darn near 20 years now, and thinks that is how a man is supposed to act. He thinks
he’s supposed to pucker up and kiss women’s butts, thinks he’s supposed to be a nice
guy, thinks he’s supposed to let women lead him, and then is frustrated as hell when none
of this stuff works like it does on TV and in the movies.
What happens at the end of every chick flick, or the end of every TV show where
the nerd gets the girl at the expense of the rude, masculine jock? He confesses his
feelings to her, she realizes he is so much better than the masculine “jerk,” and she falls
for him.
Well, guess what? That might make for good TV, and it might work in the
movies, but it sure as heck doesn’t work that way in real life. Every tried it? I did,
before I figured out what really works. Here’s what happens: there’s an awkward pause,
she says, “that’s nice” or “let’s just be friends,” and you never hear from her again.
Why is this? Why does this male behavior that works on TV not work in the real
world? The answer is simple: biology. You see, women are “hard wired” to respond to
certain kinds of manly behavior, and to be turned off by other behavior.
Ever heard a woman say she just “wants to meet a nice guy,” but then constantly
chases jerks? It’s because she’s hard wired to respond to male behavior that makes her
feel attraction, no matter what words come out of her mouth.
Here’s a big secret: if a woman feels attraction for you, she’ll make every excuse
to spend time with you. If she doesn’t, she’ll avoid you at all costs. The problem is, the
behavior society teaches men creates attraction in women, doesn’t—it actually kills
attraction in women!
This has gotten much worse in recent years. In the early 80’s, men still knew how
to attract women. By the time the early 90’s rolled around, men were conditioned to do
the opposite of what works, and it keeps getting worse.
Why did this happen? Is it a result of the feminist movement? The “self esteem”
generation?” Laziness on the part of men? Being born into prosperity? I can’t say for
sure. All I can say is this: if you do what society and the girlie men in the media want
you to do, you will not attract desirable women, nor sustain that attraction.
No matter how much the anti-male establishment wants you to believe it, women
are NOT attracted to “nice guys.” They are not attracted to men who supplicate to them,
nor to men who kiss their butts.
They are not attracted to wimps, pushovers, or men who constantly have
emotional crisis. They are not attracted to men who are jealous, possessive, or who are
intimidated by women. They are not attracted to men who try not to offend them, nor to
men who are ashamed of their desires for women.
While we’re going to talk much more about it later, if you want to see a shining
example of what women are attracted to, go and get yourself the movie, The Pink
Panther, filmed in 1964 with David Niven and Peter Sellers. This movie was filmed
when men still engaged in behavior that attracted desirable women, and it is amazing to
watch David Niven. He is a true “ladies man.”
Before you watch this movie, however, watch some of the current sitcoms on TV,
or watch a few recent “chick flicks.” Then go watch The Pink Panther. Notice the
differences between Niven’s character, and the characters of men today. You’ll see a perfect example of attractive behavior vs unattractive behavior, and the differences are
amazing.
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