I'll start with women, an issue that has been bugging me lately. I get stuck in an endless loop. it's like I feel hopeless.
I don't see myself get choosed, So I feel the need to chase, but I have this fear in my gut. Now all the Pua's would say "Dude you gotta conquer your fear," but your supposed to listen to your gut and chasing doesn't work so I feel stuck.
#1: listen to Resonance. Sit down, calm down, and most importantly, slow the fuck down and take a deep breath. Look the world isn't ending - no need to freak out. Small steps made consistently are much better than huge jumps made rarely.
#2: Lets examine what you describe your problem to be:
So you're frustrated and feel stuck because you don't feel like women are jocking you, and you don't think chasing is the right thing to do plus it makes you afraid.
Ok, well, I'm just gonna tell you right now that your problem with women starts with the fact that you
need them. If you didn't need them, the fact that none are choosing you wouldn't bother you at all, and you wouldn't feel a
need to chase in order to
get one.
The issue isn't the lack of women in your life, its the fact that you aren't OK with the lack of women in your life. Paradoxically, once you are OK with the lack of women, then you most likely will start having a lot more of them come knocking.
The moment I fully accepted the possibility of ultimately being alone, enjoying my own company and becoming my own best friend, I haven't been able to keep these bitches away from me even if I wanted to.
Lets squeeze the lemon a bit (my new favorite way of dealing with this). Answer me these two questions:
a) What would happen to you if no woman ever wanted you again for the entire rest of your life? That means no girlfriend, no going on dates, and no sex for the rest of your life.
And to complete the squeeze from the other side:
b) What would happen to you if you had girls all over you wanting to fuck you literally ALL the time, non-stop?
Really think about those questions and answer honestly - don't just give some canned answer because you think its the answer you're supposed to give.
Resonace is right, one thing a time.
A, I would probably get angry, feel depressed, I'd cry and shit. then I would move on and enjoy my interests, starting with one, finishing, and moving to the next. I would come to peace with not have a woman eventually. I'd focus on my lifestyle without women.
B,I would like it. I would get a short high from it, even at the logically knowing that all my problems aren't fixed. It would feel like it. The feeling of being wanted, power, the validation would go to my head. Then I think I would started to get tired of it. Like women getting chased by guys, It would become an annoyance, because the drama that would come with it. I would want to relax and focus on creating or getting shit done.
I really can't add much more than that, I... think that's how It would be for me.
I don't understand how to understand what I'm feeling.
Mind thinks. Gut FEELS. It's language is such.
This one is simple enough, fuck them because they won't give a fuck about you unless you are someone of value, cherish your solitude because once you do get involved with a female your peace of mind won't be there as much if at all. It still sounds like you haven't befriended your self at all, read my signature by Tom Bay it should answer all of your questions.
Feel emotions...meditate. Let go.
An exercise: use mirrors and other shiny objects to look behind you you probably get jocked more than you realize
I notice eye contact pretty well, but without results I.E. my dick in the girls pussy, I still feel bad. I'm to attached to outcome or more accurately, female sexual acceptance.