Moose, I haven't really been posting in your threads lately, because i've been focusing on my pushups - and with guys like Kidd!!, 'Grinus, Flow and all the other cool mf's on this forum you don't really need my input anyways.....
But I just wanted to say "fucking congrats". The OP really made me smile.
being with myself and doing what made me happy seemed weird and off because I derived no validation from it
Quite a while back, inspired by a post by 'Grinus about how he loves to do things on his own, I started doing things, that I would normally do with friends, by myself instead. A big one was going to the movies. The first time it felt wierd, and I felt strangely vulnerable (open to attack, kind of), but after a couple times it not only felt natural, but fuckin' sweeeeeet! I know everything happens in it's right time, but I still couldn't help but think "Man, why the fuck didn't I start doing this sooner?"
There is a subtle feeling of reclaiming my "power" when I do this - before I would either have to compromise and see whatever film the rest of the group wanted to see (always a big turn-off for someone who is as into individuality as I am), or otherwise wait until someone wanted to watch what I wanted to watch (which I now realise used to lead to a feeling of powerlessness). And I think every different aspect of "being your own best friend" is probably similar to this, in the early stages at least, in that while it's scary to have to stand in your own solitary corner, where if you fail it's only YOU - no safety in numbers here - and the responsibility is ALL YOURS, it also solidifies your sense of SELF, your individuality, and your sense of personal power. A lonely road indeed (although my experience was that after a short while the loneliness had dissolved), but it is also feeling to me like a very MASCULINE one.....
[Fringe benefit, but not really important b/c my focus is on me now: but women seem to jock reaaaaally hard when I do things like this........]