When I browsing through PUA material before finally settling on Natural Freedom, I came across some enlightening writings by a guy who went by the name "Pook". I believe Dali has posted some of his writings on this forum as well. Anyway, while doing my pushups and reading, I decided to revisit ol' Pook's words, and this led me to a blog he started after he stopped posting on the PUA website he was on. It seems that after leaving the PUA forum he grew & progressed to a similar mentality that we share here. Now that I have swallowed the red pill, what he writes makes a helluva lotta sense. There are some things he says that I don't necessarily agree with, and he doesn't seem to be into a lot of the meditation, etc. that some of us around here practice, but a lot of what he says echoes what we discuss here. Bear in mind that I have only read a few of his posts, so there is a lot he wrote that I haven't read yet. But anyway, for anyone interested, the name of his blog is Pook's Mill. Here are some posts to give you a taste of where he is coming from. WARNING: LONG READ!!:
Pook's Ten Commandments VS. The Way
This month, I'll be putting out 'ten commandments' that have provided great clarity for my life. These 'commandments' are simple and will counter the 'The Way'.
"But Monsieur Pook, speak truly. What is this thing you call... The Way?"
The Way is the default life most men revolve around. The Way is routinely celebrated and held up as the only Way.
The Way consists of the following:
-Go to school. Get good grades. Do the senior prom, go to school dances, give a girl your high school class ring, and garbage like that.
-Go to college. Get even more good grades. Participate with the campus activities, especially the feminist ones. Celebrate the Vagina Monologues. Become a magina and write against evil patriarchy and how women need more rights and security.
-Get a job, not in something you like, but in something that provides security. Make money by working harder.
-Meet a girl, fall in love, and marry her. Participate in the elaborate wedding and the honeymoon to a place you didn't choose.
-Buy a big house because of the expectation of kids.
-Once married, the other married guys show you how the system works by showing you the home improvement activities you now get to engage on. Yes, you get to go buy hammers and screws to continually improve the house. Lawn care, house care, car care, yes, your purpose is to maintain this physical shelter and make it look 'acceptable'.
-Have a kid or two. Wife gets fat and cuts her hair. You must accept this. You will now work harder and be forced to get promoted due to the rising costs. You have become the wage slave.
-Keep doing this for decades until your soul evaporates. As your body breaks down (it will at this fast pace), let your wife play the role as the 'nurse' as you begin to make continual trips to the hospital.
-Die.
Sound fun? It certainly doesn't sound appealing to me. Keep in mind that I am not knocking college, good grades, children, home improvement, and all that. What I am knocking is the pre-formulated life. This 'default' view is life in the Matriarchy. And this is if you are lucky and were not divorced.
While life in the Matriarchy as a metrosexualized man holds little joy and much neuterization, the Men's Movement has dropped the ball by not offering any optimistic alternatives. The bewildered young male sees, with very open eyes, the gloom and doom of The Way in the Matriachial System. But the alternatives are... more gloom and doom! "Society is set to collapse!" these old farts say.
What is the result? The young man becomes depressed. Some turn to suicide. Why should anyone be surprised? If one read depressing bitter posts and articles day after day, who wouldn't be depressed? What you read so shall you think.
We have given young men two sets of doom: the hell of The Way and the hell of the so-called 'upcoming societal collapse'. But there is another way. A way of hope.
Men Going Their Own Way is not an entitlement for sloth and righteousness. It is an opportunity to live. Freed from the shackles, we get the chance to actually have life. Do men trapped in the Matriachy have that opportunity? No! Treat it as the greatest gift ever bestowed upon you. It truly is the gift of life.
The best means of persuasion for young men is to not show how EVIL the Matriarchy is but rather show how GOOD it is to be a man going his own way. In a political election, candidates do not win by saying their candidate is SO EVIL that he must be voted against. Rather, the candidate must show WHY people ought to vote for him. This is true in business. You sell your product by showing why it is good, not by showing why your competitor's product is EVIL.
Young men, who are standing on the thresh-hold of life, are being taught to peer into someone's abyss. Youth, like fruit, can be sweet or bitter depending on how and when you pluck it. "But you cannot know the sweet without knowing the bitter." Yet, how many of you would eat rotten fruit to illustrate that? You don't because you know it isn't healthy.
This is the same. And you can identify the good tree from the rest because only it will grow the good fruit. Keep this in mind when you read more acidic rants (from anyone).
Pookish Commandment One: Be Who You Are
The First Commandment is the most important and embodies all the other commandments. You must be who you are.
What is the biggest obstacle to true success? It is when we do not become who we are. We try to be someone else or be what people 'want' us to be. It is discarding our passion in life and doing something else because that is 'proper'.
From any very successful person, there are two universal attributes. One, they work very hard at what they do. Two, they LOVE what they do so it doesn't seem like work. Find a passion in your life and embrace it with everything you've got. You only have one life and only so much time. Why not spend your life doing something you love rather doing something you hate? If people would find something they loved to do and excel in it, 99% of the world's problems would probably be solved.
If you do not like your life, there is one reason for it: you. Life is not what happens to you. Life is what you make of it, life is what you do. Those who think that life is something that 'happens' to you believe that they are not allowed to have joy and happiness due to whatever problems are dumped on them. Yet, while our era has problems as any other era, is that a reason to sit on the sidelines of life? Do our problems today compare to our ancestors' troubles of world wars, revolutions, plague, and recession? And if they did, is it worth giving up living life?
Anyone is free to seize life and make it what they want it to be. Why is this hard? It is because it involves change. Routines are easy. Habits are easy. Sitting there and blaming someone else for your life is easy.
What is worse is that people do not think life is to be enjoyed. Rather, they think life is to be endured. If you are having too much fun, too much happiness, then something must be wrong as you 'ought' to be doing more serious stuff. These ideas probably come from our parents, our family, our church, our women, and other sources. We are raised with these pre-concieved ideas that imprison us.
Who says life is not meant to be enjoyed? And who is to define that but you? Life can be whatever we want it to be. But if we sit around and think we have no control over it (due to government, feminists, etc.), we are creating our own destiny of despair. Whose to say you have to go through suffering seven days of the week?
With all that is out there to experience and enjoy, whose to say that your life has to be 'hard' or 'serious'? And why let anyone but you define how to live your own life?
Why are you unhappy? It is because you think you can have a better life than you have now. So are you going to sit here and blame someone else for it or are you going to go out now and change it? You can sit around all day waiting for someone to come around and recognize you but it will never happen. Why? It is because people are too worried about themselves. And they are worried about what YOU think of THEM.
Why do women hold so much power? It is because we give it to them. Men literally shape their lives to gain female approval. Men going their own way means, at the most essential level, that YOU are going to define how life is going to be enjoyed and lived. YOU are going to set the rules for your life. YOU are not going to let your life be defined by your Mom, your Dad, your sister, your brother, your church, your grandparents, your government, your girlfriend, but only by YOU. The double edge is that if something doesn't go right, you can blame only yourself. But isn't it worthwile to live YOUR mistakes rather than live other people's mistakes?
If you give up those rules to someone else, then YOU are to blame if your life is not where you like it. This is hard. I am telling you, this is hard. We have been told our lives that people who do well in life are 'lucky'. "They came from the right family." "They are different." "They had it handed to them." When you see someone happy, don't go, "Oh, I wish I were like them. They must come from the right part of town and all to be happy." That isn't how happiness works. And the odds are is that those that are 'happy' are usually covering up their own misery.
Life is to be lived. Life is meant to be grabbed on to. When you do this, you no longer worry about what other people think of you. And if you DO worry about what other people think of you, then you are imprisoned by it.
Men Going Their Own Way is about breaking free from this mental prison. Be who you are. While other people live their lives worrying what other people think of them, you will suddenly notice a huge difference in your life:
You will be ACTING on life instead of REACTING to it.
Second Pookish Commandment: Fight the Negativism
Happiness and optimism are more infectious and influential than sadness and negativism. Whenever I have been pessimistic, my life tends to go nowhere (in which I become even more negative!). Being negative never gained me any friends but has repelled people away from me. Being pessimistic retards you. You don’t undergo action in pessimism. You don’t get smarter under pessimism. You just become stupider and become filled with fear.
Many people became millionaires just by selling books on optimism. Why didn’t books on pessimism sell millions of copies? It is because anyone can be pessimistic. Anyone can shape the world into Gloom and Doom. But only a few can be optimistic.
This commandment is to FIGHT the Negativism. We all are filled with some sort of negativity. We must struggle with it, wrestle it down like some giant snake, because pessimism gets in the way of who we are. You fight negativism not by ignoring it, not by pretending it doesn’t exist, but by using reason itself.
People want to be part of movements that are optimistic, joyful, and winning. Who wants to be part of a movement that says, “Nothing can be done. The world is over. We are doomed”? There is no book that says, “The Great Gloom and Doomers of History”.
There are many reasons to be optimistic:
-The liberation of women is only resulting in the liberation of men. Men are free to shrug off the old family chains and responsibilities since there is no pressure to marry. Men can have sex with any woman almost openly. Men do not have to start a family if they don’t really want to (whereas before, it was socially enforced).
-Western women had the greatest paradise any woman has had… they had men working for them, worshipping them, in the richest nations ever known on Earth. And they threw all that away to ‘become like men’. This revealed to many men the secrets of female manipulation. The cat is now out of the bag and cannot be stuffed back in again. Thanks to the Internet, the song and dance of manipulation is finally ending.
-More and more men are finding love (and pleasure) overseas. This means men have options in other countries. Western women do not.
-Men can find whatever they wish. If they want a traditional wife, they can find one from the Philippines or somewhere else. If they just want prostitutes, they have Thailand among other places. If they want more… uhh… zesty women they have Russia, Brazil, along with other countries. The possibilities are endless.
-In the U.S., marriage rates are dropping and co-habitation is up. This is because men are waking up to the strange legal system that operates around marriage.
-Western women still don’t get it. They still have the ‘YOU GO GRRLL!” attitude of a Career Woman or something else. They don’t understand why men are decreasing to date them or marry them. All they know is that everything is the men’s fault… somehow. Today, the 'boys' aren’t MAN enough to ask her out (or so she thinks).
-Feminism is losing power politically. Demographically, this is true. The surest ways to pass values from one generation to another is with children. Feminists do not believe in children which is one of the reasons why they are losing numbers. Abortion has not helped their cause but only depleted their flock.
-Divorce laws and child custody laws are beginning to be fiercely challenged.
-Paternity testing is spreading like wildfire.
-The abuse of shouting ‘rape’ just to ‘get even’ has received widespread attention.
-Each day, more men ‘get it’, and realize they don’t have to follow The Way.
The trends are all in our favor. Your job is to figure out what you want in life and GO FOR IT.
…or you could sit in the corner and think that the world is going to end. But you are not getting any younger. Do not fall prey to the Paralysis of Analysis!
Thou shall live!!! And do not let anyone steal your joy.
Pookish Commandment Three: Become Financially Free
Becoming financially independent is one of the greatest changes you can make to your life. This is done when you don't need a job, when you have assets paying all your expenses. You become in control of your life. There are many books and much information on how to become financially free so I won't talk about that here. But there is something else I have been wondering...
Why did men become, and strive, to become employees forever?
It is a fascinating question. The idea of financial freedom is not new. So what possibly could get 90% of the population into becoming wage slaves?
Ever since we are five years old, we are put in school. We are then told to do stuff. This will not change until the day we retire (for many men, this is sixty years later). The idea of doing nothing is alien to us. If someone does nothing, hostility and mockery is sent at that person. "Lazy!" they say.
The child, since the age of five, then goes through school. He often goes to college where he is told to do more things. After college, he gets a job and keeps doing what someone else wants him to do.
After a while, you would think, "Wouldn't he try to get out of the position of being leveraged?" Yes, you would. I never understood why the masses didn't attempt to escape from being a wage slave. The reason why most men never escape the wage slave mentality is because of their woman.
During college or shortly after, a man meets a woman. The sparks fly. They end up getting married. This means they must move into some apartment and soon to a house. The bills keep getting larger. And then, the wife gets pregnant and the little bundle of joy comes home. Babies are extroadinarily expensive (and taxing on health and sanity as well). The parents, at least the father if the wife wants to stay home, has to work harder to make ends meet. More babies appear. The husband has to keep working and working and working. The husband will become so accustomed to working that he will feel himself a failure if he doesn't work in some way. He will be incapable of doing nothing. If he retires, he usually dies soon afterward (statistics show many men passing away right after retiring. All that work, and you can't enjoy the little freedom at the end.)
I know many men in their 30s with families. I rarely see them because they are always working. They work because their expenses are so high. But they also work because their woman has completely taken over the household. Their household is so dirty, and filled with screaming kids and a fat wife, that they are HAPPY to work overtime. The more they work, the harder it is for them to do nothing.
"But Pook," you ask. "Why should one do nothing? Isn't it better to work?"
No. The founder of MTV gives this advice to those who are financially able to retire: "Wait one year before you do anything else. For one year, do absolutely nothing. It will be the hardest thing you do in your life."
And, sure enough, it is especially if you have been conditioned to 'work' since the age of five. We are all brainwashed in some fashion. I have experience with dealings some professional 'brainwashing' places, these unique 'forums'. The one thing they try to do is to keep you hungry, keep you sleepy, and not allow you to be alone doing nothing. If you are alone doing nothing, you can think. If you think, you suddenly realize what a bogus operation it all is. In many jobs, they will attempt to brainwash you. At one job, after a hard day's work, I want to go home, rest, and do whatever. The job tried to invade that as well, making it almost where I *never* had rest. I said, "To hell with you," to that job. If an employer is trying to brainwash me, I just give them a middle finger and walk out. If you want my work, do it by pay, do it by making the job environment pleasant, do it by some other benefits, but don't do it by 'brainwashing'. It is like they want you to love your 'job' like you would 'love' a woman. Those who have no passion beforehand are vulnerable to this brainwashing.
As these men work and work, they lose their greatest assets: time and health. Soon, it becomes too late for them to become financially free even if they do snap out of it.
Imagine! A childhood in a mass produced schools, mass produced colleges, mass produced 'jobs', to live in mass produced houses and suburbs (little artificial towns with fountains), and when we die we retire on some 'mass produced' package plan and go to the mass produced nursery homes.
That is 95% of the population's life.
This is The Way.
Women do not question it. Already, they plan and see it. They do not imagine financial freedom and rarely see it for what it means. If you tell a woman you want to become financially free, they will run for the hills. It shows that women do not like rich men, they like rich men they can brainwash. Women marry wage slaves. If you do not want to become a wage slave, don't get married. Your wife will support you in getting a bigger paycheck. But she will not support you in getting a bigger soul.
One pattern I noticed is that all the great humanities, the great songs, art, and literature, never came from peasants. It always came from the aristocracy or people funded directly by the aristocracy. To Americans, you know that the 'founding fathers' like Washington were well educated and cultured. But they were that way because they were financially free.
Being financially free is not about greed. It is to allow the First Pookish Commandment to become true: to be who you are. If you enjoy writing poetry, becoming financially free will allow you to pursue poetry. If you enjoy racing cars, becoming financially free allows you to do that.
It is hard to be who you are when a stupid job is in the way. The rich believe the word job means Just Over Broke.
People say that wealth changes you. It doesn't. Rather, it changes everyone around you. People who were your friends will grow angry that you 'have money'. They will despise you. It is lonely at the top.
As Esther Vilar from her excellent book, the Manipulated Man, describes:
"If a young man gets married, starts a family, and spends the rest of his life working at a soul-destroying job, he is held up as an example of virtue and responsibility. The other type of man, living only for himself, working only for himself, doing first one thing and then another simply because he enjoys it and because he has to keep only himself, sleeping where and when he wants, and facing woman when he meets her, on equal terms and not as one of a million slaves, is rejected by society. The free, unshackled man has no place in its midst."
Why Men Fall into the Trap of Matriarchy
At a time when everyone seemingly dons tattered arrogant souls, when, in order to feast on the height of their self-seen greatness, everyone yields to their usual brainwashed tropes. In the Matriarchy, there are two: the Grand Career and the Grand Household.
The Grand Career is not a ‘job’ but something more ‘glorious’. A plumber is a job, but a lawyer is a ‘career’. Never-mind that a plumber can get good money and adds more to society than many lawyers, the difference between a ‘job’ and ‘career’ these days is image. Women, who worship the image, will excitedly pursue these careers. But in the end, a ‘career’ in that traditional sense is often a losing situation. It is the trap of the Wage Slave.
The Grand Household (notice how I did not say ‘Grand Family’) is the big McMansion, this is the Perfect Wedding, and this is the 1.6 kids with a 1.1 dog. Not only women desire this but so do many men. Some prefer the Grand Household over the Grand Career and vice versa (many women want both). But both of these are life not coming from your soul, from YOU BEING YOU, but from a pre-existing template.
I wondered, “How can people live their lives refusing to be who they are, by rejecting their own soul and passion by desiring a pre-made life?” The answer is that they all see the Grand Career and Grand Household as THE SUCCESS. Everyone is scared of being seen a ‘loser’ so they all desire ‘success’ (which is why woman’s biggest shame tactic is saying a guy lives with Mom at home. While there is nothing to envy in this man’s position, it is highly preferable than to be a man convicted of murder, of crimes, of furious sins, yet these are the ‘men’ many skanks desire due to the rebellious image they hold.)
Is a Grand Career the ‘true success’? Maybe, if it is truly what you love to do. But keep in mind that there is no job security these days. You can easily get fired from your job. And no matter how much money you earn on your ‘Grand Career’, the owners of the business always make more. You will never become rich by having the ‘Grand Career’ (unless you become some star like a famous actor and the probability of that occurring is very low). Why should I invest my life in making someone else rich? Why not invest my life in making MYSELF rich?
Is the Grand Household the ‘true success’? Again, maybe, if it is truly what you want. But also keep in mind that everyone else has the same cookie-cutter home with a similar dog. If this wasn’t the case, then why would sitcoms prove to be so universal? Also, again, this is the life of image. It is the picture of the ‘family’ (with dog) sitting on the fireplace mantle. Can your life be defined by a picture? Many people think so.
Women get sucked into the Matriarchy for the obvious reasons. But why do men (especially in the Anglosphere) get sucked into the Matriarchy?
1) They have no passion in life. They have no dreams, no goals, no vision. They do have sexual desire which is the closest they’ve felt to passion. In fact, they misuse the word ‘passion’ as to mean sexual desire. If your passion in life is only women, you will be sucked into the Matriarchy.
2) They have small souls and desire validation. Sexual desire can be treated in numerous ways: masturbation, pornos, prostitutes, visiting other countries, and so on and so on. Women will employ shame tactics against any way that doesn’t benefit them. The Way is HER way. Marriage is usually the only proper way for her. In the last few decades, even the ‘player’ is now considered ‘proper’ by women. Many women do want no-strings attached sex and players easily provide it. Players also are ones who desire validation. They seek only sexual validation, however and, like the Nice Guy, have a very small soul (since they are so easily manipulated even though they think it is the other way around).
3) They see progress only with their eyes. Many people are not interested in becoming rich. They are only interested in LOOKING rich. This is why many go into massive debt buying a fancy new car, huge house, or something else trivial. Real wealth is time. But you cannot see ‘time’ so people never consider their most precious asset. Although I love my father much, he was very foolish with his time. Where I grew up, we had acres that had to be cut. I hated cutting all that lawn. My father, however, loved it. The reason why was that he could SEE the difference of cutting. This explains why I think many people LOVE yard-work or housework. It also explains why people will invest hours into MMORPGs but not the usual video game. Other people can SEE their ‘improvements’ in the MMORPG while in the usual video game one remains invisible. The Matriarchy worships the visible, not the invisible. The visible components are all celebrated (materialism, the ‘compassion’ traits of religion) but not the invisible (the thinking, the intelligence, or even religion’s worship of the spirit). Body building gains so much fandom from girls because they can SEE it. Body building, to me, is much easier than say reading ancient history or understanding business. Yet, the Matriarchy yields to the visible, not the invisible. Men, who think progress is only detected through the eyes, are destined for the Matriarchy.
4) Men desire the X, Y, Z lifestyle. As children, through school and through jobs, we are taught to think in the X, Y, Z fashion. This means that in order to reach the conclusion, we must do X, then Y, and then finally Z. This is the ‘step by step’ book. This is also the instruction manual. Many men find this linear style thinking relaxing and orderly. But this is the thinking of a slave, not a free man. In freedom, there is no X, Y, Z life. There is no ladder. Men who think this way yearn for a system to work within. With women, they want to work the system and WIN with women doing the X, Y, Z steps. On Sosuave, I was constantly flooded with private messages asking “WHY DON’T YOU GIVE ME DETAILED INSTRUCTIONS!? STOP WITH THIS GENERALIZED TALK!!!” What they were truly asking me was, “Tell me the rules that are to be obeyed to have success.” I inform them, “It is time for you to create your own rules for life. If you do not, you will enter the woman’s rules by default.” These ‘woman’s rules’ are the Matriarchy.
5) Many men worship sex and female companionship as if it were the greatest achievement in life, that it alone makes them a ‘man’. I am always amazed at the vagina worship by young males. However, don’t bother to criticize this view as these type of men are very sensitive and will lash back, “Don’t you enjoy getting laid?” These men foolishly believe that winning with women is the same as winning with life. It isn’t. You can win with women and still lose in life. Somehow, someway, placing one’s male appendage into a woman’s yahoo has been made out to be the ‘height of manhood’. I blame movies and modern music for this. The only ‘sexual revolution’ has been the complete annihilation of fertility. I get a chuckle when young people today say that people in the 40s and 50s were puritanical and didn’t have sex. Where did the Baby Boom generation come from after all? It was common to have families of ten or higher a couple of centuries ago. Before the rise of modern media, manhood was defined by the number of children one had (poorer countries still hold this notion). This proved to be a problem for infertile men no doubt. George Washington is a good example of this. While he could not prove his manhood by fertility, he chose the battlefield and relentlessly pursued ‘honor’ to obtain it. If one worships sex and finds that as the passageway into Manhood, one is destined for the Matriarchy because you give women all the power to define your manliness.
6) Men desire the Matriarchy because they want to be seen as a ‘winner’ and laugh at the ‘losers’. The Matriarchy does its fine share of shaming. Generally, any man who chooses not to participate and devote his free time with women will be shamed in some way. Any time not spent with or for women must be ‘earned’. If you want to watch a football game, you must ‘earn’ it by previously doing some deed for the wife or girlfriend. These men will believe everything women say about the so-called losers of the Matriarchy. They will laugh at the ‘virgins’, label them as losers and mock them (and these virgins have done no wrong to them except to choose not to interact with women on that level). They will mock the starving artist or struggling entrepreneur for the ‘fantastic’ wage slave that they are. The Matriarchy has a defined set of ‘winners’ and ‘losers’. Many men desire to be on top to laugh at losers. Pointing out the Matriarchy to these men is the hardest because they don’t want to see that THEY might actually be losers. They don’t want to possibly believe that a FEMALE has been controlling and dictating life’s terms to them. This desire for Matriarchial pride and relishing of Matriarchial scorn for its ‘losers’ will easily swallow men into the Matriarchy, and these are the hardest to break free.
What is the solution to not be sucked into the Matriarchy? It is to wear the armor of humility (resisting the temptation to have an arrogant soul) and to have a sword of your dreams (where you be who you are). With this, a man becomes invincible to the Matriarchy and other men watch at the demigod in disbelief. How does he do it? Why does he walk so confidently? It is because he followed the Pookish First Commandment: BE WHO YOU ARE.
Work for your dreams or you’ll end up working for someone else’s.
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