Natural Freedom

I'm diligently reading every word of Pimposophy at the Research Common's at school. It's 12AM and it's a bit crowded for a Thursday night; probably, because midterms are coming up.

At 10:30 a couple take a seat across the table from me. The girl is my type: city style, rose red pee coat, brown boots, white beanie, blondish hair; I dig it. I'm too busy with Kidd's words that I leave them on the awareness back-burner. BUT, I was a bomb~ass point guard in high school, and have great vision because of that. I see she glances at me. I'm a good looking dog. I reciprocate no eye contact and stay focused to my work.

In the beginning I catch the girl looking in my direction with her man sitting right next to her. This makes the man a bit uncomfortable. He gives me glances as to check me, or whatever, but I'm not reciprocating to any of them; to busy with Pimposophy.

At one point I can sense the guy needs to mark his territory and make sure others, like myself, know the dynamic between them two. At one point he goes in close to what looks to be like a kiss, but home girl glances at me for a quick second, and giggles the kiss off with a playful tease to the guy.

I still am not even looking in their direction.

Finally, I can feel the girl is beginning to get the message that I'm not for play tonight (I would LOVE to play, but just not that confident right now in myself to pull off such a thing). She stops looking my way so often and gets to her work. What I see though is the guy is still on edge with the threat, myself. He begins to suffocate the girl with kissing and space invasion; like a dog over-pissing on a tree to where the puddle washes down on itself. I can totally see the dynamic of the relationship is the girl is in control. Guy more invested and worried to lose the girl; well in this dynamic atleast.

Home boy leaves earlier to go somewhere. His lady friend stays along and decides to study more. The guy isn't comfortable with that. She's right in front of me as I'm typing this. Funny thing though, before home boy left he made sure to do one last check of his property with some kissing, touching, and other bs. I could totally smell that his exit was over~stayed; should of just told the girl he's out and peaced. BUT, before leaving his, so called "property" behind he made sure to give me a few glances while he was packing up to send a "message" to me. I still reciprocated NO EYE CONTACT at all.

Things I took away from this analysis:

1) Get your shit together: be cool without a girl, be cool with the girl, and be cool when the girl is gone.

2) Don't suffocate a girl by trying to mark her as yours; it'll only push her away (Much like Kidds story: http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... =33&t=2572)

3) Stuff learned he sends a VIBE out that girls pickup on; guys can't really smell it, but damn the ladies can notice it! (I'm an attractive guy; worked on myself a LOT. BUT, looks alone can't be getting all these looks! (I have another good looking friend, and I am sure I get more girls jocking than he does).

I'd love to hear back from you fellas and see what you think of my analysis.


Ps. she left for the bathroom a while back, glanced at me while she got up to leave. I didn't reciprocate any eye contact still. I WAS, however, thinking of typing my digits on her laptop screen and bouncing. However, few reasons stopped me: too much inner work to have another female in my life; don't feel as confident as I would have liked to do such a thing (if I really wanted to though I could've pushed through the jitters and done it! No problem!); didn't reciprocate much eye contact with her, so I wouldn't know how strong of a reaction leaving my number would get; and lastly my mind is saying I don't want to get into a possible confrontation with the guy later down the road (I can feel a bit of fear in myself with this last reason).

Apart of me wants to open this girl and shag the insides of her wet somewhere on campus...maybe the bathroom!
(Sometime in the near future. Not tonight)

Epic Fail!
Slightly less epic fail.

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Pere, please do tell me why, so that I can learn from this.

My thoughts~she probably gets hit on a lot; I would just be another one to hit on her (giving her the ball/power).

She was jocking you from the start all you had to do was say hi let her do the work

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~There's weakness in the hearts of all humans are you afraid to acknowledge yours... ~
Mr. Todo

You are never going to be perfect. Why would you let that fact stop you from having women in your life?
That's why you don't 'hit' on her.

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All is more simple than you make it.

Here's a clue:



Also....re-read Pimposophies and Skype with Kidd.

I know you're still on the fence about that, but the evidence from those who have benefited from his personal advice (including myself) speaks for itself.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

Just enjoy the jockin' Take it as a nice CONfirmation that you are getting your mindset sorted. Note the evidence. Then let it go.

If/when this girl decides you offer more value than her boyfriend, she'll make it known.

Keep reading.

At Uni, there are TONS of other single attractive females looking to explore their sexuality

^^Do less; got it.
^^ it is nice confirmation. The PUA side inside yells "approach, open, approach".

My pimp tight cousin who I roomed with for a while told me many times I go to fast; slow down amd be PATIENT. Never let that sink in through my thick skull, till NOW!