This question is addressed to The Kidd and Peregrinus, but any other opinions are welcome.
I have been reading here since very long time. I think i understand almost everything, and i myself have actually changed since i took this path. However, i have this point that i'm not sure of.
When dealing with women, women are usually the ones filling space, you are the ones giving it. Women are the ones who pursue, try to please and etc., and you are the ones who give them the chance to do that by not denying them.
My question is: when dealing with women, especially with a girlfriend or someone who's interested, do YOU as indifferent men, ever fill or take space without them giving it to you? Is it right to do so? Do you for example initiate contact or sex?
I thought of it. Filling or taking space in this case would show wanting and attachment to me. But, my guess to whether an indifferent man fills space would still be: yes, but rarely. Please correct me if i'm wrong.
In my view:
The answer, to your own question, is fine.
It is the question that is flawed.
Space is something that can be experienced at all times regardless of physical, emotional or even sexual proximity.
You can't just suddenly think to yourself "Oooh, look at me, I'm an indifferent man. I think I'm going to go take up some space now". The very thought and the conscious action of it would put the other person off as they will sense your desperation.
The best and probably the only way to take up 'space', without actually taking it up, would be as an expression of yourself and who you are as an individual. This will give her the space to express herself as an individual.
That is the best kind of relationship.....or even an interaction.