I have talked to Libertas about this and we both agreed that once someone has already slept with a lot of women (that includes: Brent, Zan, Mystery (the number 1 PUA), and Marcus also had a great sex life), then it's very easy to be indifferent and say I don't care if I get laid or not.
This I agree with. If you have had a lot of success and have reached a level where you either know you can achieve it any-time or are turning women away, it is very easy to be indifferent. If you look at other areas of life this pattern also shows there.
However, I have also known men who have slept with a lot of women (over 130 women in one case I am thinking of) who have not reached indifference.. It does depend on how you take that internally.
I think more it is about if you realise that it is more about quality than quantity. Then your attitude does change.
Also, most of those men, I suspect if you put the right woman in front of them who satisfied all of their criteria, they would be FAR from indifferent.
Also, if someone has done a lot of meditation And was able to get rid of attachments: then maybe he can be indifferent.
This is very possible, when I got deep into this it really did change my level of attachment to outcome, which changed my level of indifference.
I have also seen this effect in friends of mine locally who I introduced meditation to. Meditation on themselves, not women, seeking peace and self realisation.
This is tied to YOU being the source of your happiness, not a woman you may meet.
But taking a regular guy who never had success or still a virgin And tell him:
'you know what: it's not a big deal, forget about having success with women'....
I don't think that's going to work for most guys....
I would tell him "no matter how hot you think she is, somewhere there is someone who is fed up with her and does not want to fuck her" <- reality check... It is true in all the cases I have come across.
AS above, YOU should be the source of your happiness, not someone else.
I will admit I have reached some level of indifference already, but one thing I have noticed is this:
after I broke up with my girlfriend I was more indifferent than before (and I'm not totaly indifferent just yet
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So I think that real\total indifference can come only after you have had some success.
Real total indifference is NOTHING to do with success!
Real total indifference is purely about your mindset and internal state.
Now I'm not saying one needs to sleep with a lot of women to realize that sex (althugh very nice) is not going to make you a happy man. I also know that real happiness does not come from women but from the inside.
See above comment. The two are interlinked.
A lot of pointless connectionless sex is NOT going to make me a happy man.. I know that for sure, from experience. In fact it makes me unhappy, as it is empty.
IT IS NOT ABOUT THEM - IT IS ABOUT YOU.
Once you realise that, then your attitude will change.
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Realise that you have a FAR greater gift to offer them than they have to offer you (NOT IN AN EGO WAY,
pure truth)