Do you actually experience it too
Yes
would you say it's only her (meaning more significant to her)
No.
To a certain degree, in my view, it has to be mutual.. Otherwise it is not there.
In that moment, you both have to be open, to some degree or another, otherwise one person is hitting a brick wall - nothing is coming back.
Depending on how open both sides are it can be stronger or weaker, for the other person.
because that's the way you are 'all the time with everybody'
Nope
I am not that way with everybody. There are people who I close off to, as do not want to go down that path to them, from experience.
I think the key thing here is being able to spot it when it starts, when the situation arises (without thinking about it, feeling it) and then being open, rather than reacting and shutting down, thus closing it off. Even if the other person is closing down, staying open. A lot of the time if they do that they will re-open up once the shock passes.
(when she can only experiment it with 'a guy like you' )
As with second question, it is more significant to her, it hits her a lot harder. Lot lot harder.
As Kidd said in his post, what I experience can be multiplied up to give what she experiences.
Part of this is because I have felt it more often than her, have actively worked on relaxing into it and letting go into that feeling and place. I am more comfortable in that place than she is, more used to it, know what it feels like and can function with it there. I have heard comments from women that it feels really vunerable to them to be that open and to have someone look so clearly into their 'soul', to show someone that. Soon as they tense up they are shutting it down, soon as their brain kicks in they are shutting it down.
For her, she is not as comfortable in that space.. (Have not met many women who experience this reguarly in their life, enough to get really comfortable with it) Hence in both stories, I allow them space to let it settle first, for them to relax.
I guess going by that you could say I feel it more often than she does, or she comes across it less often than I do.. That affects each of our experiences.
It is more of a shock and jolt to her, when it happens to her.
Not the reaction she is used to from a man, or from herself.
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Flipping this round, imagine a woman who is more used to this than you are.. The effect would be the opposite. I have ran into women like this and my reaction has been very similar to theirs in my stories. It works both ways.