Natural Freedom

Now this story happened on Saturday. I was just chilling at home when i got a txt at 5pm from a girl, asking me hang out with her and some other friends at a mall. I really did not want to (since i already went out at night on friday and didn't want to spend any more money), but she kept pushing, so i decided to go when she promised that i wouldn't have to pay for drinks when we go to the club later at night.

I leave my house, and eventually arrived at starbucks, the meeting point. Its around 6:30pm. At starbucks is the girl that invited me (ill call her the college girl), an Indian girl, and a Korean girl. Now, i was told that one of my friends was also with her, but now she says that they're gonna meet up somewhere else, so i'm just sitting texting my friends while the girls are talking. Eventually, we leave starbucks, go to the restroom, and then leave to the next meeting point using taxi (Only the girls paid for it).

Now for some clarification, I've been close friends with the college girl only recently, like 1 to 2 months. I was helping her while she was breaking up with her bf, thats when we got closer. Now she always invites me to go somewhere almost every week (not just her and me tho). This was before i went on the forum. Now the Indian girl, I've met her a couple times, but we never really talked, but the one time i actually talked to her, i was so tired and annoyed that i acted like how i act only with really close friends (which is being an asshole; i act more nicer with people i don't know; a social conditioning that i'm trying to break). So now, according to her friends which always trying to make me hook up with her, she likes me, even though i never text her and she always text me first. This was also before i went on this forum. And the Korean girl, i just met her that day. They're all hot in their own ways.

Now we're at the next meeting point, which is a shisha place next to the club we'll be going to later. The group is now 5 guys, including me, and these three girls. We're all just talking. The college girl's hanging out with some of the other guys, ignoring me (at least that what it looks like; still not good at reading signs). Eventually, we go to the club early. This is like 8pm. We have a table reserved. Att his point, i was really tired since i was up late on Friday, so i didn't really talk. However, whenever i met the Korean girl's eyes, she immediately asked me questions and starts talking about herself. I respond, stop talking, and it repeats. Eventually, the other guys and the Indian girl leave (they're not the ones I'll be partying with) so now its me and the two other girls. I only got a goodbye handshake from the Indian. Its 9pm, I'm just relaxing on the coach playing a game on my phone while the girls are texting on their phones, not really talking to me. After 30 minutes of that, the Korean girl randomly says she's hungry and then ask if i'm hungry. I said i am, but i didn't have any money, so she says she'll pay. I'm just saying "na its fine" and stuff like that, and she eventually just goes to me, pushes the menu to my face, and tell me to pick anything i want, so I order. While waiting for the food, the group of people that we will be partying with arrives. So now, its 8 guys and 3 girls (the third girl already has a boyfriend which is also there). I get my food first and start eating, with the Korean girl taking some occasionally (there was a french fry side dish). She offered to give me half of her spaghetti when she gets it, but the portion was really small, so she didn't. I didn't complain or anything.

Eventually around 10:30pm, the party starts. Someone buys us a bottle of vodka since it's his birthday. We start drinking. Some of my friends push me to approach the korean girl, but I just sit, acting like i don't care. Once, when i get eye contact with the korean girl, she smiles at me, so i just smile back. We finish the bottle, and eventually go on the dance floor. Now even tho the ratio is uneven, the college girl and the korean girl only dances with me. Eventually the group decides to split the cost and buy another bottle (i didn't have to pay tho), so we start drinking again. Even tho we aren't on the dance floor, the korean girl wants to dance with me. We go back to the dance floor, start dancing, and then come back to the table for a rest. Now this is where the bad part starts.

Its around 1am right now. The college girl lost her phone, so then we spent an hour looking for it. Eventually, the security guard catches the thief (he stole from several tables) and interrogates him, which takes like 2 hours. Meanwhile, I'm just standing around, talking with my friends and comforting the girls while waiting for the result. The Korean girl didn't have a place to sleep at night, so she said to me "Who is at my house." Unfortunately, my grandparents were at the house, so i couldn't invite her. At around 3:30am, the security guards lets victims go into the room. I wasn't, but the two girls are allowed in. I'm just lying down on a coach near the room, and eventually the korean girl goes out, starts ranting (the college girl's phone was already sold). I just touch the korean girl's hips and she starts lying down on me for like a minute. Eventually she goes back to the room and i just stay on the coach. At around 5am, i was told to go home, so i text the korean girl to come out so i could say bye. She comes out, i say bye, get a hug, then leave for home. Thats the end of the story.

Uumm now some self-analyzing. I'm definitely sure the Korean girl was attracted to me. The college girl might be attracted to me, but I'm not sure. What's weird is that they both subtly try to get me to hook up with the Indian girl. If i messed up, it would that i forgot to tell the korean girl to text me the results, so i had to text her first (which i did the next morning), which made me lose some power (the chat wasn't that good; she didn't really invest, so i didn't either. It ended quickly). I may have also messed up by wasting my time waiting for the girls. It was a situation that didn't concern me directly. How about it? Anything else someone wants to add?

Now, while we were dancing, the Korean girl said she is going to a different city next weekend, and she asked me if i wanted to go with her (remember i just met her that day). I said yes, but she was a bit drunk, and she didn't mention it the next day while we were texting. Should i remind her, or just see what happens, since it could've been a off-handed comment? While we were waiting for the results, she mentioned to the college girl that she wanted to find a boyfriend at the other city, while i was next to her. Is she testing me? I didn't say anything btw.

Ya, i just realized how long my post was....

She's into you
Never do this most likely she will think of you as an emotional tampon
Be comfortable in your skin if you don't want to talk you don't want to talk

I got lazy in reading the rest I will let others give their opinions.

but this particular question:
Any and everything from any female will always be a test

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My opinion

She likes you, that's for sure
The reason why she asked you to go to the neighbor town with her... Girls tend to tell their emotions of the present, translated into english (or whatever language used), so it didn't neccesarily had to mean you should go with, but just that she trusted you and liked you at the moment - which I think didn't change so far

There's always something deeper

But you could ask her, if she meant it, yeah

Ugh, my Internet shut down for some reason so I'm answering from my phone. I'll have to split my response into two posts. Now then: The thing is, I was not the only guy she invited to hang out with. Of course, i may have been the only guy she offered free drinks to.
As for when I comforted her.... It was before I found this site, when I was still a symp. Luckily we weren't close at the time so I think she has a fuzzy memory. And I wasn't really comforted her; my friend was and I was just beside my friend listening to her story.
I may have worded it wrong. Because I was tired and annoying, I stopped bothering to watch my words and just acted how I normally do. Yes at the time, I thought being a nice guy got you girls. Silly me.
Since you say she's testing me, what would you do to past the test?

Ah so what she said then doesn't apply now? In that case, it's better to see if she meant what she said and just wait things out.

It's be nice if more people would come and join the convo. More opinions are welcomed.

Not neccesarily.. Depends

Stop giving a fuck whether you do or not or as Grinus would so eloquently put it:

LET IT GO

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Let go or be dragged.

-Zen proverb.

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GMST

Ah crap I do sound attached. But I think of it sorta like this:
Let's say you don't care about math, so when a math test comes, you really don't give a fuck about it and don't study and all that crap. But even then, you still wouldn't purposely answer every question wrong just because you don't care, you know?
But ya, seems I need to lose this attachment.

I think that was a bad example

A math test you have complete control over to pass or fail, that girl you was chillin' with has a free will of her own. Meaning you really had no control of how she thinks or acts.

So since the only thing you really have control over is yourself why should you care if you pass her shit tests or not? That is out of your control you can at best have influence or the power of suggestion but even that's suspect because they would have to want it in the first place anyway.

Now don't get me wrong if you do care about this sort of thing then you want to arm yourself with the tools of observation, analysis, and stacking evidence to improve your chances of copping the broad (I'm still improving in this area myself), so you can eliminate the guess work out of the interaction.

But remember ultimately they are there own individual and human capable of the same follies as man and have no control over. No matter how well prepared you are nothing is guaranteed.

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Ah ya, you're right. Still have a long way to go...

Enough said.

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I get how the first two lines were signs of interest, but what about the third line? There was a waiter, so she didn't have to stand up and get the food (that would have been a sure sign of dominance). I got my food first since it was easier to prepare. Is it really that special that she takes fries from me?

Acknowledgment.
Doubt.
Confirmation.

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