Here is a text message transcription from recently (I had some time to kill at my desk tonight, and thought some of you might get some value out of how I set the tone, and handled the situation. I'll abstain from throwing in detailed commentary, however I might italicize the occasionnal bit. My words shall be in boldface type. Some background: This woman messaged me on POF because she liked what she saw. In the course of our corespondence she hinted that she wanted to meet me to 'cuddle' ASAP.
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U busy at work right now?
Yup. Just got started.
Boo! I went out with some dud on POF today and he was an absolute jerk.
Dahaha! Tell me about it in a bit. I have to make some calls to the office right now...
K Just message me when you're free.
Okay! I got 'er handled. Calgary is in the loop, and I'm at the wheel. So! Tell me about your date
Not a date a meet and greet. Or a meet n fuck was what he was expecting. Is it bad I'm expecting something long term wt a guy?
Don't worry as bad as I wanted to get laid I didn't. He just talked to me so rude.
Finally after 30 minutes of small talk I was like yea I'm leaving and he laughed n played on his phone.
How did you know he was expecting sex?
He invited me to his house lol Red light I fell for to start.
We were joking around on POF and apparently he wasn't lol.
I'll be honest. I got the impression (from your profile and from our back-and-forth)
BRB... Business...
Where would I be without U aka my dr Phil.
k
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So what kind of rude behavior was he exhibiting?
He wanted sex n me to leave until he wants it again. I'm not a fricken wind up toy lol.
I've been thinking about deleting POF anyway. Haven't had much luck lol.
I think I understand... A question: If he had behaved right and met you in the middle for what you both wanted to get out of the deal, would you have gotten intimate?
No I don't need or want a booty call. I'm kind of happy that I didn't give in and I stood up for myself but mad I waisted a day texting him lol.
I'll be honest. I got the impression (from your profile and from our back-and-forth) that you were keen to get physical quickly. I think it's possible that he might have gotten the same impression
Okay fair enough I respect your honesty.
But yer questions are making me think.
Should I dress up in nunnery clothes so men don't think I'm a walking sex partner lmfao.
I don't wanna talk about this anymore lol n I'm sure u don't want to listen to me whine
Can I ask u a blunt question?
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Sure, go ahead. (was busy supervising the driller for a critical part of the well)
No worries. So when us a good time to text u, I feel I'm always bugging you when you're at work. Or shall I take a hint? Please b honest.
I really suck at reading men Lately lol.
At work is fine. My hands don't get dirty so I can handly my phone whenever.
I'll give you a hint though... When you invite a guy to "cuddle", more often than not it sounds like code for sex. From my experience, cuddling does lead to sex.
Lol fine. No more cuddle invites. Like u'd drive that far anyways you goof.
No, I wouldn't, but I'd meet a woman half-way for a chance to get acquainted.
If cuddling leads to kissing fine. I'll just duct tape my pants on
Hmm. Glad to see u'd go half way.
I would've met u last fri when u were "heading west" lol
I thought you might have.
I have a rubber arm! Haha am I that easily readable?
You seem fairly up-front, but no woman is completely transparent. I suspected you might have wanted to see me but my intuition told me that you might have been nervous, so I just left it alone. I'm done with puting pressure on women.
I'm way too blunt my face is so expressive its funny if I'm lying my face will be fighting a grin.
Not gonna lie I'd be shy at first. But if u would've made a move I'd be interested or persuaded lol not wt a case of pilsner tho yuck lol.
I can dig it. I understand that women basically want to have a good time and still be respected as a person without feeling used. Guys like me are the same way.
Where did u end up going fri anyways? :p
Whoa bingo. U win major points (Ruffy). For u to just type that lol.
Huge! I'm dancing n clapping.
Friday I visited (W-town). What a saussagefest!
Lol in the town bar or what? Lol.
Yeah I swung in for a beer or two, chatted with some roughnecks, and was out.
How far is (X-town) from where u r?
Bout 30k
I'm a girl. Lol so what 20 mins
I go by mins lol.
Yeah about that.
Oh so what would be halfway.
Hypothetically speaking if we were both in a cruising
mood one night.
Like... (C-town), (Z-town)... somewhere around there.
Ahh hell id do (Z-town). You're cute enough
+grin+ Right on. I might be shaking free in the next day or two anyway. Heading west
U nerd you made me giggle! Ps nerd is a pet name no offence.
(Z-town) is not bad tho I thought it would be farther.
A few years ago I drove to (T-town) to meet a guy. Ahh rubber arm lol.
No offense taken, nerd
Oh U don't even know lol.
Off to bed, are you?
Nope. Watching bachelor. Then maybe reply to sum work emails. Had a nap at supper time.
Nice. Well, ta ta for now. Back to the rig floor for a while.
Alright. Have a good shift!