I truly think that your beliefs and confidence is the "magic pill", but of course some action must follow.

I don't think it is the good-looks, the wealth, or something else external that gives you the woman directly, BUT it gets you the CONFIDENCE, because you THINK that these things matter and then THAT (the confidence) in return gets you the women.

So of course, you can start working on these external things too (more wealth, looks, better style, more interesting life, etc etc), but the one thing that will be the most effective is just changing your beliefs. So it's much easier to go to the root itself. That's my opinion anyway.

maybe believing that you have bad beliefs is another affirmation, maybe believing that the problem with girls is becasue your beliefs is an affirmation too, what if there is really nothing to fix?, it's just my opinion and my experience about affirmations, becasue i felt like adding more weight and running away of my own demons

well, as someone here once said (I don't remember who it was) we talk to ourselves all day long (usually negative shit) so why not 'change the record' to possitive.
I guess gratitude is also good to remind yourself what you do have.

And regarding the negative self talk- it's based on our past experiences (and we all have those....). So unless you can be in the now moment and control your thoughts it's kind of hard you know....

even monks have to train for years before they can silence their thoughts and be in the now most of the time.

edit: I did mention that I use the Sedona to release past baggage and not use affirmations as a band-aid