I stumbled across this forum again just to see how everyone was doing...
My perception of lot's of things have changed, yet not quite. I don't do affirmations, or anything like that anymore. They're not necessary. I don't try to change my thought patterns or beliefs. I don't have a desperate need to "cure" myself of anything...
I just feel really at peace a majority of the time.
Really guys, being an attractive person is simple. Being natural means you are completely at peace in your body, and mind. You are focused on your own things in life. This isn't a formula or technique to "become natural" or "become attractive". It's simply just a way of being. Don't over think it. It's a natural state, meaning it will return to you, no matter how much you don't want to believe it.
Natural grounding and meditation are really simple to do.
What happens with most of you guys is that you try to do things that will make you attractive to women 100% of the time. You try to recreate that state all the time, and you end up creating suffering for yourself.
Meditation practices bring up old pain (you know it is old when you feel bad, but you don't know why). The only way for you to let go, is to experience again. So immerse yourself in what you're feeling. It will be released in a few moments, or a few days. Regardless, you feel it and it leaves. Lots of days, I feel really in tune with women and their natural beauty. I don't have to convince myself to look for something natural or believe in something, it really just happens all on its own. A few days (becoming fewer and fewer) I feel like a appreciate her body more than her spirit. And that's fine, because I know that this state of mind will pass soon, and after it passes, I feel stronger than before.
So let yourself experience the pain that meditation brings up. Suppressing it or trying to figure out why you're feeling it, or how to make it go away, or what you're doing wrong, etc. is not helpful. It's just the pain body in you influencing your thoughts (or lack of serotonin in your brain, if you prefer a less wacky explanation
). Dive in and experience the spectrum of emotion. It's really a beautiful experience when you really dive in to it. You'll figure out that every single time, without fail, you'll return to your natural state. Sometimes, you experience it longer than others, but it really does lessen. You must let out the old to bring in the new. Previous pain can then be replaced with positive emotions.
Don't turn this into a task though. You don't need to hunt down negative emotions when you're feeling bad, because that creates suffering. Whatever you feel in the current moment, not suppressing it is equivalent to feeling it fully. Just let it be there, be aware of every sensation. There's nothing you need to do about it, just let it happen.
When you try and figure out and analyze why you can't get emotional about women, or why you're not happy, you just create more suffering. Some days, your heart JUST WONT BE INTO IT. That's okay. I like to think that it's the heart healing. I let it heal. And then I love again.
Natural grounding isn't necessary for any of this. But it's really fun, because I love women. Some days, I don't feel like loving or thinking about women, or people in general. Some days, some thoughts seem more persistent. I never take them seriously anymore. Let your thoughts and emotions have a party in you, they're not who you are anyway, so why not just let them have their fun?
Your natural state will return to you, and it is way simpler than even I had imagined. Let yourself feel everything, and the rest is history.
Love you all
-Midnight <3