(still not sure how to put my thoughts into words on this but I'll give it a try
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So, the members that have been here for a while already know that the concepts we talk about here apply to everything -Not just women...
I have a security job at the moment in which I work only with men...
It ain't my dream job but that's what I could get at the moment and the money is not bad.
anyway, ever since I started working in this new place I have applied the concept of space. By that I mean that I give people (in this case-Men) to express themselves. I'm not trying to make anyone like me or be my friend.
Looking back at my life and in my previous jobs - I was often trying to dominate people or make people like or be my friends.
Ever since learning from Grinus and Kidd about 'space' & doing inner work (becoming my own best friend) I can clearly see the fruits now in the new workplace and in relations to other men.
Now at this new job almost everyone wants to be my friend and I don't feel as if I need to make 'an effort' to have this happen.
Of course the pimp tight mindset and treating people accordingly always applies - just today I had to put someone in his place when he was trying to pull something on me. But even that ended up pretty quickly with not too much hard feelings (at least not by me).
So thanks Grinus and Kidd for talking a lot about space along with all the other stuff:
becoming your own best friend, having the pimp tight mindest\treating people accordingly and etc...
I hope that other members will see with time that everything that is being talked about here isn't just about women.
Just know that changes don't come overnight - 'inner work' often isn't easy. But do it and you will see the fruits....
Kidd and Grinus my wise teachers, here is a tribute
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