-Intimacy with a woman is enjoyable
-I need this paticular girl because she's "special" and "different" from the rest...there's nobody else like her
All bullshit! Anyone else have those or similar beliefs they've had to change to get to a place of non-attachment to women?
I struggled with the last two before I could let them go. But I let those two go because:
-Intimacy with a woman is enjoyable
Yes it is enjoyable and I still like it however, I now know that the reason I enjoy the Feeling of Intimacy with the woman is because of how She makes me feel
And the reason she makes me feel good during Intimacy Is
becuase of the value I offer to her.
There is nothing wrong with that but if someone else would have the same value or more value to offer her she would have had this Intimacy With Him.
Now you could say that the reason I enjoy Intimacy with This woman is because of the value she offers me. That's true however, as David X and The Kidd said and also if you read the book 'the manipulated man' (which was written by a woman
) you would know that Men are much more easy to please thus
I give more value to Her than the value I'm getting because I (as a man) is much easier to please
-I need this paticular girl because she's "special" and "different" from the rest...there's nobody else like her
She might be special to You becuase she is Your X-Factor:
'All an X-Factor is...is your average chick who, because your front and clout are damn near exactly what she is looking for subconciously and consciously (in addition to intangibles like your moral/value set), almost instantly submits and lets you lead with little to no resistance.
In other words, the more you maximize yourself, the greater number of women will 'transform' into an X-Factor...for YOU. It's like the anti-Agent Smith in the sense of his ability to become any person who sees you...kind of like that'.'
However if I met her and she did not feel that my Front and Clout is what she is looking for- then she would not be intrested in Me. She might be nice and polite to me but she won't
be "special" or "different" than other girls who didn't want me. So the bottom line is:
she is special and different to You because Your Front and Clout is what she is looking for. But
if your Front and Clout were not what she was looking for than she Would Not try to be special to You but
to someone else....