Not all I would say, I had my own issues with him but she did have some influence over it.
When I look back at his marriage with my mom, some of the rebuttals he had for her complaints were actually correct, it was her choice to stay with him and she could've left any time (makes sense logically right?).
From the sound of his voice he's happier with his 2nd wife but number 2's kids of her own and he's taking care of them so imo he kinda went backwards.
I may never get to see him again but if I do I'd actually have a real conversation with him and understand where he's coming from and hear his side of the story, which he does not really get into.
All the shit my parents did in the past, that's where it stays, I just don't see the point in staying pissed at them for fucking up. They complimented each other in the sense that they have a machiavellian quality about them, but my dad got the better luck. Their shitty marriage was a blessing in disguise, if it wasn't for that I may have been open to the idea of putting an expensive ring on someone's finger and signing the slave contract.
I might be wrong, but I believe noone on this forum have parents happily 'in love' / still together (with good role models), otherwise we wouldn't be there.
The lesson is that you rised through the ashes and stopped blaming things on them, UNLIKE his son, who is MAKING money on his sappy story on how he could not have grown to be a man, and blaming it on his father.
More power to you
