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PostPosted: Fri Nov 14, 2014 5:57 pm 
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Long story short, my girl and I are on hiatus indefinitely as of about a month ago. She says that there is too much damage to even attempt to repair it and that I deserve better...which when translated from her native tongue of selfish bitch, means that she isn't willing to help clean up the mess she played a large part in creating...that and she would rather stick her head in the sand and hope that one day when she pops her head out everything is fine versus having to accept how awful she can actually be.

She didn't take me to court for child support, but I do pay for some daycare, so it's almost a wash but I'm not getting totally fucked, so it's tolerable. We get along well enough and it wouldn't surprise me if we have sex occasionally. My gut tells me that it ain't over till it's over, but I'm no longer going expend any more effort or energy on reconciliation. Whatever will be, will be...it is what it is.

So...that's that. :geek:

NOW...the GOOD news is...story time is poised to make a comeback in a major way. :twisted:

So...here's the kickoff! :D

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Thanks to the internet, I was able to reconnect with a high school buddy I haven't seen in like 22 years. He came to town for a weekend on leave and we were thick as thieves...picked up right where we left off.

I took him out on the town last Friday to downtown Vegas, which is kind of like a pub crawl turned up to 11. Attire was casual...Star Wars T shirt (nice fit to show my gym gains), jeans and Jordans. My buddy had drinks on him all night and I get good and loose very quickly. :mrgreen:

First contestant of that night was this tall, thick black chick...I'll call her Tits McGee (TMG) cause her bewbs were MANGUS. She was all in my personal space with her boobs gently nuzzling my right arm, which was up cause I was holding my drink. :geek:

She quickly qualified herself, telling me that she's about to finish up her CPA. I asked what her cup size was...I believe she said E. They were served up all in my face so I saw no problem with talking about them...and neither did she. So after a bit more convo, we exchanged numbers (she initiated) and that was that.

Follow up: She arranged to meet me for coffee Sunday afternoon. To be continued...

Then, we moved on to the next bar. By now I'm good and liquored up and am even more indifferent than I usually am...which is a rather godlike level of indifference. Chicks was jockin me TUFF!...just what the doctor ordered. 8-)

So near the end of the night, I was getting sweated by 2 thick Hispanic chicks...one was more fat than thick and the other was like a happy meal from being fat, therefore still fuckwitable. I didn't care either way...which is what usually produces the most interesting outcomes. :twisted:

So I end up sitting off to the side as the dudes hit a fever pitch with jockin the chick that is squarely in the thick camp. Even my buddy is spitting game at her. She was a curvy little Puerto Rican chick with tattoos and gauges...ass and tits for days. Very cute too. Not usually my type but I'm not even sure I have a type anymore. :?

Out of the blue, this chick makes a beeline over to me and plops her ample apple bottom down right next to me. She basically pulls her phone out and asks for my number. As I'm about to give it to her she stops and says, 'Look, if you have any baby mama drama, are involved with someone else or any of that kinda shit don't even bother cause I don't have time for that shit.' Her accent is thick as molasses.

Fun Fact: I am a sucker for Redheads and Latinas. 8-)

This is where most men would lie...but I am not most men. ;)

I casually reply, 'Real talk, I recently broke up with my current baby mama. I still love her, and if she were to tell me right now she was willing to work it out, I would jump at the opportunity. However, she is not at this moment and we haven't had sex in 2 months...her loss could be your gain.' :ugeek:

She just looks at me...my face is probably a mixture of I don't care and whatever. She says, 'Ok I can respect that.', and proceeds to take my number, as chick number 2 looks on with disgust. It was comical how badly she tried to convey non verbally in a noisy nightclub how I was making the wrong choice. :lol:

So my buddy and I are ready to go and ol girl is like, 'Hey...let's drop your buddy off and then you come home with me.' So forward...I LIKE THAT! :D

I'm kinda nervous...I haven't done what's looking like a one night stand in YEARS...I generally view them as a waste of time and evergy. But, this is happening, and I could use some attentive lovin, so I'm going along with it. As we leave the spot, at least 3 dudes are making last minute pleas to choose them over me...I just sit back and wait for her to shoot then down one by one...for she has already chosen. 8-)

My buddy offers her the front seat...better man than I am. On the way to his hotel, I ask how big her areolas are. She proceeds to pop one of those bad boys out and proudly show her nipple piercing as well. My boy in the backseat CAN believe it (cause he knows me from WAAAAY back)...but he also can't believe it as well. :o

So he gets dropped off and we get to her house. She wastes no time escorting me back to her room and getting down to business. She was quick to toss me a condom, which is a good sign when dealing with promiscuous women. She was enthusiastic and had no hang ups. I was tender with her at times...something I could tell she doesn't get much of. She even spoke Spanish while I stroked her, which I don't understand a lick of, but to me is still the greatest thing EVER. :mrgreen:

We lay and talk for a bit...she tells me she chose me over my buddy because I'm cuter and me overall because, 'I had a feeling you weren't just going to jackhammer me.'...interesting. :geek:

I make my way to my car at around 6am...buzz gone and can't believe how my night went. The sun is out so my walk of shame is on full display for the world to see. Yet, I feel no shame...it's just another day in the life of The Kidd!! 8-)

Follow up: We've texted each other a couple times, but it doesn't seem like it's going anywhere. Of course I'm not pushing the issue.

Edit: All of these women are early to mid 20's :geek:

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PostPosted: Fri Nov 14, 2014 6:39 pm 
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8-) !!

Can I ask, what do you mean when you say you still love your baby momma ? What do you mean by love here ? Since we know regular definition of love is false


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It's basically women speak for I still think she could be a viable option. ;)

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PostPosted: Sat Nov 15, 2014 12:38 pm 
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The Kidd!! wrote:
It's basically women speak for I still think she could be a viable option. ;)
Its also woman speak for 'I dont just throw women away' :D

Man, shame that the doc told me I have to give certain things up.

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:D
the return

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love how u dove headfirst into both buzzom qwestions :lol:
not surprised ur ex isnt willing to do what needs to be done, I'm wondering if deep down she doesn't think its a necessity.

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PostPosted: Sat Nov 15, 2014 3:46 pm 
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Sai wrote:
:D
the return

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love how u dove headfirst into both buzzom qwestions :lol:
not surprised ur ex isnt willing to do what needs to be done, I'm wondering if deep down she doesn't think its a necessity.
As spoiled and self absorbed as she is, I doubt she thinks ANYTHING is a necessity. :lol:

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PostPosted: Sat Nov 15, 2014 4:30 pm 
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The Kidd!! wrote:

This is where most men would lie...but I am not most men. ;)
Truth is so important that I don't care who it hurts or displeases

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Does this change your perspective on the modus operandi of "X Factors"? Can we assume a women that is long term material is non existent?
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Attire was casual...Star Wars T shirt (nice fit to show my gym gains), jeans and Jordans.
Return of the Jedi 8-) ..."fitting".

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Does this change your perspective on the modus operandi of "X Factors"? Can we assume a women that is long term material is non existent?
I wouldn't say non existent...but I would say that with their general lack of long term foresight vs their penchant for instant gratification, that nailing down an X Factor is much more challenging than I anticipated 15 years ago.

Also, I've discovered that they really aren't the X Factor...the X Factor is actually YOU. :ugeek:
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Return of the Jedi 8-) ..."fitting".
Haha! Didn't even consider that at the time...so true! :D

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 16, 2014 12:08 pm 
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The Kidd!! wrote:
I wouldn't say non existent...but I would say that with their general lack of long term foresight vs their penchant for instant gratification, that nailing down an X Factor is much more challenging than I anticipated 15 years ago.
Oh so much so.

One the other hand, that does not matter, once you figure out this:
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Also, I've discovered that they really aren't the X Factor...the X Factor is actually YOU. :ugeek:
^THIS!!!

This is my main objection to all the 'x factor' talk that went on.

Yes, they may appear to be an x-factor. They are that way because of their reaction to YOU.

At that time, in that place, with you how you are, they react that way.
Change one or more of the variables and they may very well react differently.
They may not however the chances are they will.

There is also the chance that the 'x-factor' part is an act, designed to 'sell you' on them.. It happens, then at some point they revert back to their 'normal' behaviours once the deal is signed.

I refer to : http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... 007#p11007
[ http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... 756#p30756 ]

This is also why that pack of smokes would be getting bigger and bigger, if I was able to accept them.

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Yeah, I mean like it would be one thing if a majority of them were fucking up. They all fuck up though, even the ones that would fall into the "nice" category. It's not like they blind side me or gain any reasonable ground. It's just irritating.

It seems like a huge waste of my time to be dealing with multiple women, but I guess I shall have to embrace my fate. There are no women worth dealing with over the long term.

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This is also why that pack of smokes would be getting bigger and bigger, if I was able to accept them.
I'd say at this point, I owe you a damn tobacco FIELD. :lol:

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PostPosted: Thu Nov 20, 2014 3:34 am 
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My buddy offers her the front seat...better man than I am. On the way to his hotel, I ask how big her areolas are. She proceeds to pop one of those bad boys out and proudly show her nipple piercing as well. My boy in the backseat CAN believe it (cause he knows me from WAAAAY back)...but he also can't believe it as well.
Great story. It was a fun read too.

You seem to have a lot of people in your circle who know what they're doing too.

This doesn't get said enough around here, but if you change/improve yourself then your environment and the people surrounding you change too.

Again, fun read. I like how you finally told a story while being out with a buddy. The solo experience is always great, but some of the best times I've had have been with buddies just for shit talking afterwards even if we didn't do anything that other people would consider amazing. With a good friend, any night out on the town can be fun.


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Its always motivating to see playa who fallow Game-Code and stay sucker-free 8-)
The Kidd!! wrote:
Sai wrote:
not surprised ur ex isnt willing to do what needs to be done, I'm wondering if deep down she doesn't think its a necessity.
As spoiled and self absorbed as she is, I doubt she thinks ANYTHING is a necessity.
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she isn't willing to help clean up the mess she played a large part in creating...that and she would rather stick her head in the sand and hope that one day when she pops her head out everything is fine versus having to accept how awful she can actually be.
This guts feeling must be international.... I feel you playa about your baby drama... even Superman has kryptonite

Lets explain what guts are saying with logic so everyone who is interested, open your eyes and read some game:
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The drama is a cover-up for how she really feels. She may still have feelings for him; in fact, she probably does. The love* that exists between two parents cannot be completely broken, not even by anger or disappointment. Instead of accepting the fact that love still exists in her heart, she may not be mature enough to accept it for what it is and move on. She may not realize that the love she feels doesn’t have to expressed romantically. Or she doesn’t want him to believe she still loves him so she acts out in ways that supposedly express hatred or disdain when, really, it’s all a cover-up
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The rest of her life is out of her control. When a Baby Mama faces experiences like the loss of a loved one, being stagnant in her career or caring for someone who is dealing with a prolonged illness, she experiences the stress of not being able to control her life. This causes her to hold the reins even more tightly with situations she CAN control—like her children, your mood and her household.
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She’s angry because he grew up. Relationships that form during the early years of our lives are difficult to maintain because the two parties grow up and grow apart. It could be that during their time together, the Baby Mama wanted a certain treatment from the love of your life but she never received it because he was too immature to understand the importance of what she asked for. Now that he has grown up, she is seeing a different side of him, and it angers her that he could not offer her the kind of love and respect that he is now offering you.
*love - tight emotional bond

http://mom.me/tween/8135-7-reasons-your ... ama-drama/

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Haha it's funny cause I've been considered all of those things happening behind the scenes. :lol:

...and yeah, my kids are my kryptonite...especially since my father wasn't around. You could say I have male daddy issues. :oops:

Needless to say, if no children were involved (MY children specifically), this woman would have been a distant memory by now. But it is what it is...and we'll see how it goes. :geek:

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I was tender with her at times...something I could tell she doesn't get much of....

...overall because, 'I had a feeling you weren't just going to jackhammer me.'...interesting. :geek:
Loved this bit. Interesting indeed. :geek:


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There is also the chance that the 'x-factor' part is an act, designed to 'sell you' on them.. It happens, then at some point they revert back to their 'normal' behaviours once the deal is signed.
Just got a flashback of my previous relationship, only needed to make that mistake once to learn. :lol:

She turned on day 2. :x

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peregrinus wrote:

There is also the chance that the 'x-factor' part is an act, designed to 'sell you' on them.. It happens, then at some point they revert back to their 'normal' behaviours once the deal is signed.
Just got a flashback of my previous relationship, only needed to make that mistake once to learn. :lol:

She turned on day 2. :x
Don't put her into best place on your roster, even if your
list is empty, she will enter it from the bottom. There is
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when you don't date women. That way you always know
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Jared wrote:
Don't put her into best place on your roster, even if your
list is empty, she will enter it from the bottom. There is
a reason for it. You can have the system in place even
when you don't date women. That way you always know
how to relate to her. (=You remind her how things are.)
^^ THIS

^5 Jared

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Jared wrote:

Don't put her into best place on your roster, even if your
list is empty, she will enter it from the bottom. There is
a reason for it. You can have the system in place even
when you don't date women. That way you always know
how to relate to her. (=You remind her how things are.)
Dang :D


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