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Author:  Sai [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 2:47 am ]
Post subject:  TEARS. does it affect you ?
:cry: :cry: , cry me a river. I'm still a sucker for a Females tears.

so yesterday, my girl was fucking around on Facebook, and she came across a message that an Ex-girlfriend of mine had posted about 2 months ago.
my ex posted " I love you"
out of sheer politeness I responded ( about a week after the post) " I love you too".

my girl said to me " is it ok if I went on Facebook and told my ex that I love him"
I knew where this was coming from and going, so I braced for it.
I said " girl, do what you feel like doing"
she asked me the question again.
I responded, " do you feel comfortable doing it?"
she said "No"
I said "Ok then"
her : " I can't do this anymore, I can't stand having only a piece of you"
Me : " you know what, DO YOU!"
her: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Me: ............ :|
she got up went into the room and slammed the door.
I watched T.V for another half an hour.
when I went into the room she had the sheet over her, covered from head to toe. I dragged it off of her. there she was. bawling and looking into space.
Me in my head, " fucking hell, I should try to talk myself out of this situation"
I did.
why am I such a sucker for tears?
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 3:02 am ]
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Moral of this story: NEVER PUBLICLY REPLY SAPPY SHIT TO YOUR EX'S ON FACEBOOK. :ugeek:

That was just dumb...you asked for THAT shit. :lol:

That's what private messages are for...if THAT. Ain't that much politeness in the WORLD. :|
Author:  Sai [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 3:07 am ]
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:lol: :lol: :roll: ,
o.k.
I think my ex knows what kinda game she is playin. but as you said, I played right into that trap.
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 3:19 am ]
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...your ex is somewhere crying too right now...crying LAUGHING. :lol:

If you want to keep this chick, you are gonna have to eat her shit for awhile...or call her bluff. You gotta decide which one is easier for you. 8-)
Author:  rant [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:18 am ]
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enelkei wrote:
:lol: :lol: :roll: ,
o.k.
I think my ex knows what kinda game she is playin. but as you said, I played right into that trap.
why girls allwasy do that? it's just for the fun of knowing that she make the other girl mad?
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:41 am ]
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She's just milking it...she knows she got him by the balls for the stunt he pulled on facebook. :lol:

I don't fall for overly dramatic tears...if they are warranted, I can be sympathetic...otherwise, I focus less on the tears and more on the face behind them...the one that is trying to GET OVER ON ME. :|
Author:  Jared [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:56 am ]
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I´ve made a few women cry too of course I have.

"Conan, what is best in life?"

"To crush your enemies, see them driven before you,
and to hear the lamentation of their women."

"That is good! That is good!"
Author:  peregrinus [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 1:39 pm ]
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The Kidd!! (slightly adjusted) wrote:
I don't fall for overly dramatic tears...if they are warranted, I can be sympathetic...

otherwise, I focus less on the tears and more on the face behind them...the one that is trying to GET ONE OVER ON ME. :|
This is a good baseline to follow.

The most important is to realise WHY she is crying.

Is it real, or for effect? Is there a motive behind it or not?

The face and body will tell you that. - Again coming back to observation.

--

enelkei - firstly it was foolish to repond on FB how you did.
HOWEVER - I see nothing really wrong with what you did, providing you felt comfortable doing it, and not because you got sucked in.
Then it was foolish to get dragged into the drama your girl conjoured up out of it.

when she responded that she did not feel comfortable doing it, that is the clue. Why would she ask if she could do something she felt uncomfortable doing? - warning to you that there is a test in here somewhere.

Why did you feel you needed to talk yourself out of the situation anyway?
It was one SHE created not you.

I have had ex's tell me they love me and I have responded the same, in front of my current one. It does not affect your current one, unless they are quite insecure (CLUE!)

If they are insecure then prepare for all levels of drama to come out of it.
[If you want to look at this another way, if the tables had been turned, think how a lot of guys would have responded in this situation]
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 2:37 pm ]
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...and everything 'Grinus just said.

My keeper has some insecurities that I am aggressively helping her get rid of...I would NEVER do something like that Facebook stunt because although her reaction wouldn't have been that dramatic, being that I know how she is, I just wouldn't do it.

Conversely, I've dealt with women where I tell them all about everyone ELSE that I am CURRENTLY involved with...and no static whatsoever. :mrgreen:

You gotta know your audience...and if you CARE what your audience THINKS...then you need to CATER to your audience. 8-)
Author:  rant [ Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:43 pm ]
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peregrinus wrote:
HOWEVER - I see nothing really wrong with what you did, providing you felt comfortable doing it, and not because you got sucked in.
Then it was foolish to get dragged into the drama your girl conjoured up out of it.

i was thinking about this, becasue it all comes to her being responsabe by her own actions so no need to get stuck in her drama
Author:  Sai [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 12:57 pm ]
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about 3 years ago, when I was still in the States, my (now) girlfriend was coming up to work. we had just began seeing each other for about half a year, but she was in Jamaica to visit some family.
now,
a year and a half ago my girl and some of her childhood friends got into a fight.
one of her "friends" called me up and started giving me this whole spiel about how my girl is cheating on me with her ex boyfriend.
they told me how while I was away in the states, the dude would still be coming over to sleep at her place and how the Day that she left to the Airport to come see me, how the dude went their with her and was confessing his love for her etc.

now to be honest, when I heard at first, I was angry!
but, I remembered that I had told her , when I went to go visit my aunt in Texas and also my "ex", I told my girl that I had fucked my ex during that trip!

I also had asked my Girl if she still had feelings for her old boyfriend cuz she was Pregnant for him at one point but lost it, and she said she still "loved" him.
so she shouldn't have flipped when I told an old girl that I loved her.
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Sun Mar 27, 2011 1:21 pm ]
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Look at it this way...now you know who loves who more between the two of you...and trust me, it ain't her.

She is not your keeper, I'm afraid...
Author:  Sai [ Mon Mar 28, 2011 1:31 am ]
Post subject:  Re: TEARS. does it affect you ?
you think so Kidd? I've told her multiple times that it's best if we split, but she keeps on saying that she don't want to end after she has invested so much time. me, I'm doing me. she has shown her cards on multiple occasions so I just do what I got to do. the last straw was the other day, which we spoke about and she said she would change her ways.

I know what you are gonna say, I am enabling bad behavior. I know :roll: .
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Mon Mar 28, 2011 1:49 am ]
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Let me get this straight..so basically...what you are telling me is she is the one who will ultimately decide if you two split up or not? :|

Listen to your gut, not your heart... :ugeek:

I'll tell you this tho...if you dump that bitch with authority, she will change her ways faster than I typed this. 8-)
Author:  Jared [ Mon Mar 28, 2011 2:59 am ]
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If we invest something in someting, (like time) it means
actually to move Energy from point A to B.

Does she get the intimacy she wants in exchange for
her > time investment >? That is the ultimate value for her.
That is what she seeks in you ultimately. And that she gets
this value from a Man.
Author:  Azriel [ Mon Mar 28, 2011 2:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: TEARS. does it affect you ?
The Kidd!! wrote:
Let me get this straight..so basically...what you are telling me is she is the one who will ultimately decide if you two split up or not? :|
Holy crap I was about to say something like this!
Also she has 'time invested in you', sounds like she's preparing you for marriage...
Author:  The Kidd!! [ Mon Mar 28, 2011 5:27 pm ]
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No offense Jared, but this is no time for rainbows and unicorns. ;)

Enelkei, you need to put your foot down and be decisive NOW or she is gonna be running the show for the rest of the relationship.
Author:  Jared [ Mon Mar 28, 2011 5:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: TEARS. does it affect you ?
True that I dunno the whole story.
I don´t see hellhounds and succubi either...

About time investing; one can´t really manage
time but only himself/herself. Every second is as
long as the previous and the next.
Author:  Sai [ Mon Mar 28, 2011 9:41 pm ]
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Aztecsfinest wrote:
The Kidd!! wrote:
Let me get this straight..so basically...what you are telling me is she is the one who will ultimately decide if you two split up or not? :|
Holy crap I was about to say something like this!
Also she has 'time invested in you', sounds like she's preparing you for marriage...

well she doesn't decide if we split or not,
and Aztec,
she is the one who is always asking me if I want to get married to her :|

I've said it here before,
Her whole Family always tell me that I'm the "Best" person she's ever dated!
I think she was usually attracted to real scum bags, and I also think she was "broken bad" in her previous relationships.
she once told me a story about how she had problems with her Man and then she lured him into this neighborhood where one of her thuggy friends live. she then created a scene in the car , the dude slapped her and she called Super Thug. her man got scared and hurried away when Super thug arrived. if that bitch ever try that shit with me,... well actually, she know better than try that shit. :lol:
I think you guys are right though, my gut tells me to leave this chick alone, even though I love her.
Author:  peregrinus [ Tue Mar 29, 2011 7:02 pm ]
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enelkei wrote:
I've told her multiple times that it's best if we split
enelkei wrote:
the last straw was the other day, which we spoke about and she said she would change her ways.
enelkei wrote:
I think she was usually attracted to real scum bags, and I also think she was "broken bad" in her previous relationships.
enelkei wrote:
she once told me a story about how she had problems with her Man and then she lured him into this neighborhood where one of her thuggy friends live. she then created a scene in the car , the dude slapped her and she called Super Thug. her man got scared and hurried away when Super thug arrived.
enelkei(edited) wrote:
her : " I can't do this anymore, I can't stand having only a piece of you"
her: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
she got up went into the room and slammed the door.
enelkei wrote:
one of her "friends" called me up and started giving me this whole spiel about how my girl is cheating on me with her ex boyfriend.
enelkei wrote:
Her whole Family always tell me that I'm the "Best" person she's ever dated!
enelkei wrote:
my gut tells me to leave this chick alone
I wholeheartedly agree with your gut!

I could quite happily buy your gut a beer and have a decent chat with it.

Why do you doubt it?
enelkei wrote:
I know what you are gonna say, I am enabling bad behavior.
You are!

Most of all, IN YOURSELF!
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