Here's the British Journalism article on it:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstop ... -love.html
but i can't find the actual study one!!!! This is just the conclusion, obviously. The actual study and discussion of the science behind the gaze was far more fascinating.
I wasn't saying that what he and I had was love at first site, nor that I believe in love at first site, but I do believe that there is a bit of truth behind this - perhaps deeper than infatuation, because I've known guys to have a infatuation but not be in love, nor have had the unblinking gaze. I just think this was an interesting study about how it can happen to men, and how they fall in love differently than women do - women can hold the same gaze but remain uninterested. But I guess it takes a lot to capture a man's attention for that long, eh?
So, Sniper, I guess that's your truth - I know allllllll about the Hollywood stuff, trust me, haha - I think that's what the article was getting at; a man "analyzes" the potential mate/match and looks for fertility clues, things he likes, and determines attraction level and how much she cpatures his attention. I'm guessing beyond the 8.2 seconds means he's approved and is prepared to let her in.
Maybe you've never had that experience, Bonder?
@ Spaceman - I agree about the needing to see all of the body language, the full package, together. Gaze and eyes can say a lot. I'm quite capable of determining true opinions and thoughts just by looking at someone's eyes; not something everyone can do, but eyes can reveal quite a bit. Also I assume if the guy is receiving feedback and a vibe, like you mentioned, during these critical seconds, I suppose that would translate as encouragement, a welcome to go ahead and "search me".
@Alchemist - I think you're a bit bitter! I had the EXACT same perspective and feeling towards "true love" and how it boiled down to values. But... I'm totes the opposite at the moment, it's way more than values, there's an undefinable, indeterminable, *something* that goes beyond values. We don't even have the same values, but we almost love our differences and understand each others' alternate values more than the ones we share. There is something more, underlying. If this relationship had lasted a month, I'd throw out the "true love" thing, but it's been the same feelings, if not growing, for over a year now.
peregrinus, I agree =)