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PostPosted: Thu May 26, 2011 4:49 pm 
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I have just recently joined this forum and I am very grateful to have come across it. I have delved deep into just being with myself, because duh, I kinda will live with myself and my feelings until I die.

There are two topics on my mind right now. Releasing emotions and seduction/pickup advice.

Releasing emotions never really worked for me as I had hoped. I always got into the frame of trying to force myself to let go of the emotions, so I got frustrated when I couldn't really let go. The focus became on getting rid of emotions instead of living and embracing them.

Guess what? I might feel sadness, joy, freedom, love, anxiety, frustration on a daily basis. These are just emotions and they are OK, because I am a human being who has emotions.

No matter how hard I fight to get rid of emotions or release them, chances are I will feel sadness some days until I die. I will feel frustrated, anxious and needy at times. So it's dumb to think that I will release these emotions or get rid of them, when in fact I will experience them many more times.

As of now, I am living from a place where no emotions can be released. It's futile. What this means for me, is that I have to live with these emotions and embrace them until I die. In other words, whatever it is I feel right now, won't go away and won't change. Therefore, the only choice I have is to fully face these emotions and learn to live with them, as they are going nowhere.

That's true and ruthless acceptance.

This brings me to my second point. Pickup and seduction materials are mostly crap well because they try to tell you how to feel. You have to feel attractive, worthy, confident, indifferent, etc. otherwise you ain't getting nowhere. Well this ignores a key point: What if you don't feel that way? What if you actually feel sad, afraid, nervous, anxious, frustrated?

Are we supposed to just ignore all that and force ourselves to feel attractive and confident? I haven't really come across honest down to earth material that advocates (except for here and Jake's forum) truly being OK with wherever you are right now. Which in my opinion is the key, instead of trying to be somewhere else.

It is truly dangerous that certain emotions are labeled as attractive or fundamental for success with women. This made me to avoid and resist my sadness or neediness, because it wasn't going to help my cause. Man was that painful. I became a poser and resisted those emotions kinda like I would resist going to take a pee, when my bladder is about to burst.

Now that I read advice demonizing neediness, approval seeking or nervousness, I just ignore it. I rather face those emotions even if I have to live with them forever than have them consume me.


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PostPosted: Thu May 26, 2011 5:48 pm 
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The emotions are not the problem. It is the labeling
of them that is. To be free means to be at the level
of choice.

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PostPosted: Thu May 26, 2011 6:03 pm 
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BRAVO!

Goood posts

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.


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PostPosted: Thu May 26, 2011 8:44 pm 
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well, as Jari said:

emotions are just energy once you don't lable them as good, bad, right, wrong- and just allow yourself to feel the energy. I'm working hard on this now but the more I let myself feel whatever comes up and without labling it I'm making peace with whatever energy comes up - and then it's OK and it doesn't scare or bother me anymore.

The world works on oppsosit energies. No energy can exist without the opposite energy...

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