living with her though has awakened the demons, the neediness and clinginess was apparent before and I attributed that to her being a few years younger and I thought she would grow out of it but it's exponentially increased now with her in my living space

one would think that having you around in proximity would cancel this, but no.
they won't stop until they consume your everything (if you allow it to happen) and then they'll spit you back out because you have changed.

Dude, are you sure you want the vasectomy ? You sure you wouldn't want children when you are like 35+ ?

Pro-Vas is a breakthrough in male contraception. The Pro-Vas device effectively occludes each vas deferens, blocking the flow of sperm without the need to sever or remove a segment of the sperm duct. The result is reliable birth control without the pain or protracted recovery that can accompany traditional vasectomy.

The part he's leaving out is that he may 'bank' some sperm should a amicable situation arise with a woman and kids could be a possibility. If I could do it all over again, that's what I would do.

Then you could tell her to go half on the fertility clinic...make her put HER money where her ovaries are.

Getting snipped and sperm banks sound equally awful.

I'll just use condoms thanks.

It wouldn't be getting snipped, the link I sent above is an alternative solution and I've been through worse things than vasectomies so I could handle that lol. Also a vasectomy is more effective than condoms/birth control.

I'm not an optimist when it comes to encountering the right partner, X factor, however you chose to define it. At this point I don't believe that chick exists for me and if she does she'd have to be really something else and I don't even know what that is, it will take experience with alot more women before defining that for myself.

I don't want to rule it out completely but alot of conditions and boxes would need to be ticked on both sides if I ever met such a woman and that route would be considered.

it seems you created such an internal void because your external needs weren't being met so it seems that she is desperately trying to cling to you... I bet you are serious at home

the more space I get the better I write, oh, whenever I write, but if ever I write I need the space to say whatever I like

I just need to be more resourceful so I don't get into deals like this in the future.

Moving in with a girl (or having her move in with you) due to monetary reasons is NEVER a good idea. You should only move in with a girl when you and her both want to, irrespective of financial reasons. It will ruin the relationship.

I learned this one the hard way 10 years ago, and again 5 years ago (sometimes it takes making the same mistake twice to learn the lesson).
Yep. Get your finances in order, and once you do, hold girls you date to the same standard.