To be honest, even though it was a messed up situation, I didn't feel like she did anything wrong. But she kept apologizing too me over it and I kept telling her it was fine and not to worry about it. We ended up hanging out again and she made it up to me. This was only possible though cause I didn't care.
Exactly ^ v
Yep! A woman's power is derived from how much you care...if you truly don't care, then she is rendered powerless...and that is a rare thing for a female to deal with.
I let her keep texting apologies and what an idiot she was, until my gut told me to respond. When I did respond, I just said “hey, been super busy. What’s up?”
She said “OMG, I thought you were pissed at me”
I didn't respond to this because, well, it wasn't a question.
A couple days later she texted "it's been too long, I want to see you. (X bar) tonight?"
The thing was, I hid my shock of this shit actually happening well, and after it processed by like the next day, I truly did not care. Like you said Mikey, we weren’t exclusive.
‘Grinus said something amazing along the lines of “She doesn’t own me, I don’t own her”. After really contemplating it, that one had a
huge impact on the whole human interaction thing for me.
I politely turned down the next couple of her invites, one for a legitimate reason, the other because I didn’t feel like going out that night. Eventually she goes, let me take you out to dinner and drinks so I accepted. She once again said how she thought I was so pissed at her. I think I said something like, “why, we’re not exclusive” very nonchalantly and left it at that.
I can’t imagine the turmoil her head was in over those ~3 weeks I wasn’t responding and turning down her invites.
Ask yourself why she kept apologising....
There is a damn good reason why and it has little to do with you.
She did not get the reaction she was expecting, she also realised that those tactics were not going to work on you..
Unfortunately for HER, this created the opposite reaction of what SHE wanted.
It did not matter that you said it was fine, in point that made the mistake even worse in her mind.
Hence she kept apologising, rather than listening to you, she was caught up in her own story.
Supply the space, and she will drive herself fucking crazy.
She has since taken me out to dinner twice, and later this week she’s taking me to a sold out concert that she somehow got 10th row seats for. And now, every time I’m with her she has this twinkling look of admiration in her eyes and behaves like a nervous little girl. Almost like she is star struck.
As of late, I can also see her trying/saying subtle things to maybe sneak this into more serious/exclusive status under the radar (things I have fallen for before in life and…all of a sudden I’m 2 years in). With my mindset now, however, I keep my space and subtly yet sternly drop reminders that we are not exclusive. And she tries even harder.
What it comes down to: I TRULY did not care. And (I’m fairly certain) she has NEVER met a guy like me before.
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