fufe, sucks you lost your job but there is a reason for everything that will soon become clear.
Aside from that, I really see no reason for all this bitching and moaning. You obviously have girls that are into you, there’s just one small detail that you are misunderstanding from what I gather.
You are being completely aloof as opposed to indifferent. Being your best friend would be a different way of phrasing indifferent but still getting to the same means.
Kidd said it somewhere on here, but when a girl is clearly attracted and giving you tons of jocking, you have to reciprocate but just keep it a little less than what she is giving you. You were just being distant and not giving them anything, so it’s understandable the girls would think you’re not interested.
You gotta plant some seeds and give her a little too. Touch her softly on the shoulder or arm when you are talking, let a gaze linger on her just a little bit longer than usual. Say you like that in women when she mentions a positive trait about herself. Whatever, do some of the same things girls that are jocking do to you, just give her a little to go off of so she doesn’t think you flat out don’t like her.
Again, aside from the recent job situation, I just see excuses, self-sabotage, and an unwillingness to let go of that victim mentality.
That's true. I seem to fall into this negative self-defeating state when I'm:
Primarily: Too bored for longs periods of time
Secondarily: Alone for too long (few days are too long)
Actually now I don't feel that bad as you guys might think I do... I understand my situation, but somehow I feel empowered by handling this, that I stood against my fears, etc.. I feel more confident even when I failed that
Thanks for pointing out the reciprocation. I read Scarf's post in this topic:
http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... 3052#p3052
And I saw myself in it so much it's unreal
Yesterday before job I met a female friend for a while, we needed to make copies of keys to the flat I slept in (It's in different city that one I live in, one and half hour bus ride). She was attracted to me in the past, but I wasn't interested (not my type, at all) she eventually found out a boyfriend, who's very good match for her, I know him and he's great guy.
She was devastated emotionally, her grandparents are terribly ill, her father cheats on her mother and only the girl know it, school stress etc. She told me all of it, we discused relationships etc.. When we were standing she stood pretty much in my intimate zone, not even a few inches, the closest to me without obviously touching. It surprises me how girls feel safe and comfortable in my presence (especially when I feel confident). I feel like a father figure in situations like this
In her case I didn't mind being her emotional support, I don't mind being a friend only obivously.. I like being "emotional protector" of people actually, ENFJ trait I guess
BTw, I'm thinking about going out by myself today, I crave a burger and I'd like to sit with my notebook in a pub a write some stuff