Ever since I could remember. Okay seriously probably since grade school I could remember always trying to accomplish things perfectly. School work, basketball, exercises. You name it and most of it I tried to do perfectly. Now, my mom is a NEAT freak! I mean you leave a remote crooked and she has to straighten it out. It's a pain in the ass to be honest. My thought is chill the fu** out! Who care's it's croooked leave it! But, she care's and that's how she is, so that's cool.
I'm writing this, because today at work while walking to the back I had a thought or realization...whatever, that when I came into this genre of life; growth and workings of your inner demons I wanted to PERFECT it. I wanted to be a man with no insecurities or flaws. Not, firstly I'm still not sure if there's anything wrong with or if its impossible not to have any insecurities.
What's your thoughts on that?
The second point was a problem though. The flaws. I wanted to be a perfect specimen. A MAN! One with no flaws Perfect FLAWLESS! Flawless, so that woman could not resist me. Oh boy what did I get myself into?!
Yet, today I realized it's all 50/50. You can't have white without black. You can't be human without flaws. Our flaws are what makes ourselves...ourselves. I viewed my flaws as bad and never manned up to accept them. I payed the price with many years of sorrow and pain. I viewed things like I had to be a certain way. And, still now I see others and catch myself wanting to imitate them; be them so to say. I think what I really want is how comfortable they seem being themselves. I haven't had that yet since childhood. To be comfortable being me. I never accepted it. I never said: Hey I'm fucking shy and that is 100% OKAY!
I'm still here, so I still have time to change it.
I'm saying much like fight club's TD said let's stop being perfect:
I say never be complete. I say stop being perfect. I say let's evolve. Let the chips fall where they may
On that note if everything was COMPLETE. All we wanted and pursued was DONE. What would be next for us? Insanity? It never is complete. Once or if you ever achieve completeness your going to have to spend the rest of your life MAINTAINING it!
Two years ago I believed I could work on this all and be DONE with it forever, but that's all
Smoke and Mirrors RJD2.