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A girl I've been seeing for over a year who was absolutely amazing, what I thought was my x-factor. Everything on paper was almost too good to be true. We became exclusive, I dropped all other girls, over the past two months. Within these two months things changed drastically, granted I was not perfect. We would have fights and i would go out and get numbers (probably to feed my still slightly lingering need for validation) and then make up.

But funny how once I agreed to be committed things changed so quickly and the demands for more lovey-dovey stuff started coming, demands for marriage, and wanting a kid before she got too old came like an avalanche.

I have now lost a lot of faith in humanity and especially the opposite sex. I even tried to bend on some of her demands and things got worse. We've fought for the last week straight, i fully called her out and stormed out and now we just ended it.

So true that you HAVE to be your own best friend. Everyone is in it for themselves

Sorry about this bitch post but have to get it off my chest.

Best part is now she's gonna begging back...it is the way of things.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

To elaborate on what shitgator said, Listen to the lyrics of this song very carefully and follow suit...then you can have the last laugh when she starts blowing your phone up.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yFzHvOv6oGo

When you became "exclusive" you ceased to become a challenge and you went from being a Louis Vuiton handbag to a K-Mart purse in her eyes, women are always looking for the bigger better thing,...which is why I'm so down on relationships, if you never give her all of you then you're always going to be that bigger better thing.

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The honey doesn't chase the bee.

A wise man once said "I find that a duck's opinion of me is influenced by whether or not I have bread."

Thanks, and yes this is what my gut tells me, still isn't easy though

Appreciate it, those lyrics are epic!

And ya almost comical, yet the reality is disappointing how quickly and abruptly things changed once we went "exclusive"

When she comes back, make sure that you are ready to be the man you NEED to be and not the man she WANTS you to be.

...and I also hope she doesn't come back pregnant like my retarded ex-keeper did...UGH!

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

Indeed!
Fixed

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The honey doesn't chase the bee.

A wise man once said "I find that a duck's opinion of me is influenced by whether or not I have bread."

thanks for sharing StephenP,

something I don't understand in this story,

you said:
a girl's biological clock is ticking and it's normal she wants to have a kid before she is too old.

The Kidd's ex-keeper is still very young and still in school so what she did was stupid...

but how old is your chick?

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

There is a moral in this story:

Finish how you start!

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Irrelevant question Sniper..

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Was asked the following question: I noticed (and you probably noticed too) that women close to 30 or above 30 tend to be more I want to get married and have kids now.. as opposed to a 22-23 year old girl. why is it irrelevant?

Will expand a bit on my comment....

Yes, women in their 30's/40's tend to be more 'I want kids now' as their biological clock is ticking and at some point it will go off. It will start ticking so loud you can hear it down the street, blocks away. Their time is running out and their body knows it.

However

Women who are younger will experience the same thing if the conditions are right, not in their head, in their gut, if the stars align and the signs are right, their clock will go off.

Given what StephenP said in his post, relating his actions and mindset, to her the stars were aligning and the conditions were right, hence her clock started ticking.

Given that, her age is irrelevant.

If you read his post slowly and carefully and look for it, the signs are there.

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

This is true, I can look back and see subtle ways that I basically became her bitch. However was it wrong for me to go exclusive after starting with no commitment. I'm thinking going exclusive is ok just with that there were ways I gave my power away??

I have a feeling that me walking and not begging to get her back will start to rattle her, but time will tell.

She's about to turn 27 Sniper FWIW

Good advice, I've been reflecting a lot on where I went wrong. A lot of subtle, some not so subtle ways of compromising myself and letting her manipulate me.

At least if she comes back pregnant, i'm 99.9% sure it's not mine. I've been 100% on the precautions, as I've aged no longer want to play that type of roulette whatsoever.

Nice follow up peregrinus!

Amazing the insights you can gather - I went back over my own post and can see the clues you caught onto.

thank you Grinus,

now I undersatand

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Including ourselves! The more I see it in myself the more I accept this is the way it is, and it becomes more about dealing, rather than spiraling into anger or blame (either them or yourself) about it, FWIW.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTXz8xMaJi4

So so true, I've been seeing this a lot in myself as well. It all started one day when i gave this super friendly bum a couple dollars. And exactly, the more I see it in myself, the more I accept it.

It really is a good feeling when you get over the butthurt of seeing reality for what it is and come to accept truths that most people won't dare look at.

So I woke up to 7 missed calls from around 2:30am last night

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

Bravo on not letting your phone interrupt your sleep time.

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Ha, always turn on alarm only. Sleep = Imperative