Natural Freedom

At certain points people feel the need to fly away, go on a walkabout (look it up).

When they do, simply say 'bon voyage' with a smile and wish them all the best.

If they return, they return, if they do not, they do not.

It is something they feel they should do, so let them.

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In building a statue, a sculptor doesn't keep adding clay to his subject.He keeps chiseling away at the inessentials until the truth of its creation is revealed without obstructions. Perfection is not when there is no more to add,but no more to take away.

Sort of the thing.


If you are relying on someone else; a partner, a football team, a pet or something else like money or exam results to stimulate you emotionally, then you are seeking your emotional stimulation from something external - something that isn't yours. You can almost get away with it if it's money or something practical but it's different, particularly when it comes to women.

If you are relying on a woman to stimulate you emotionally, you have become a vampire. An energy sucking vampire. This is what repels women. Not anything else. This is why 'space' works, because while you're busy giving her space, you are not busy sucking off her energy. She needs her energy.

Why?

Because she too is an energy sucking vampire and you are the emotional stimulant she uses to suck off of. This can be positive to negative depending on her disposition.

Now go back and read my other posts and see if you can put the pieces together.

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Sparkling All Over

fufe there's a lot of posts on this thread. I didn't read all of them, but I feel I have enough to give my 2 cents. Your doing well.

Few things I want to bring up:

1) Become clear on what you want. (Friends w/ benefits, gf, friend, one night stand). Once clear is resonates out from within.

2) Nice to see the signal. Make your move. Or better yet do what YOU WANT. NOT "oh she touched my hand, now I can touch hers yes!" You want to grab her hand...go! See what happens.
I'm SURE she likes me. Correct sentence. Believe it and see it. Like Kidd said (read it on someones signature) "Never doubt yourself" -Kidd

Fellow members wrote it on here. Leave these girls on the back burner and go work on yourself. They will come around. The value you can give yourself compared to the value these girls can give to you is immeasurable. No comparison whatsoever.

Thanks for your posts, good stuff.. I'm taking it to heart, especially what you wrote Scarf
I'm clear about that, I want a gf longterm - half-yeah, year, or longer, depends how it goes but I want relationship.
Allright.. Everything goes into "Do what you want" direction lately and it makes sense..

It would be in your best interest to give up this desire, not for the same of getting it (because you can't fool the powers that be) but really abandon it.

Chances are it will never happen, consider that.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

I don't see a reason why it wouldn't happen sooner or later.

That's not my point.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

His point is Stop Giving A Fuck, already

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Perfect behavior is born of complete indifference.

Ok, this I can understandt.
I can't say I don't smpatize with this, I'm slowly moving towards this.. Lately I haven't been thinking about relationship at all, since I wrote the last posts untill Dude asked.. And I feel I'm moving in the direction of indifference, but it won't be sudden click.. I'm a person who changes slowly, so it will take time.. But I appreciate and take to heart your suggestions and opinions and am doing my best, I hope
I feel I'm starting to break free finally

Fufe...the bottom line...and what everyone is trying to tell you...it's that IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU WANT...what you want has little to no bearing on whatever life decides you're gonna get.

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EVERYTHING in life is conditional...EVERYTHING.

Pimposophy Revisited is now finally available on Amazon in all territories!

This!!!

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

So the law of attraction doesn't work at all ?

To reiterate the point we've all been making: you're attached to the outcome.

When you no longer care, it doesn't matter whether it happens or not.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."

The thing that won't work is the plot you devised for yourself and think is what you must have, and expect.

Life is the biggest pimp, it allways gives you what you need. So why worry?

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GMST

I said I'm not yet completely unattached, it takes time.. But ok

Fufe, the Law of attraction doesn't work unless you put action behind the thought. sitting down and just thinking won't make what you wish for materialize, you have to work with it. "God helps those who help themselves" and yes, letting go of the attachment to outcome is one of the hard things, because in a way, people still expect some things and some things are still inevitable.

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"I'd rather have no bitch than a half a bitch" Iceberg Slim

It is very simple concept; Follow logic;

Wanting is not the same as being with.

One can lose the wanting it, without losing the being with it.
People are afraid they lose their relationships if they let go of
the want to be in a relationship. The people in your reality are there
because they want/choose to be in it, and they go because they want/
choose to go.

You don´t have to want/choose that I am on this forum, I simply choose
to be here. And this is for the next 2 minutes. Then I go eat.

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Prodigy you somehow asume I sit on my ass and do nothing, like you know what I'm doing all day.. Telling me I have to work on it is like telling fish it has to swim, I'm doing what I can, goddamit.. You got me mad (My ego doesn't like hearing something about me that isn't true)

Thanks Jared.. I'm starting to grasp this, I will put this to practice

well fufe, if it isn't true, why would you get mad? from my experiences, when somebody says something to me, or about me, unless it is true, or has some truth to it, I wouldn't or don't give two fucks about what was said.

I only approached what you said, based on how you said it ( wording) I honestly am not assuming that you just sit or stand or kneel or lay down, thinking that things are just going to fall into your lap.

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"I'd rather have no bitch than a half a bitch" Iceberg Slim

Well I'm the opposite all my life - Somebody says something untrue and I start to get mad