Excellent question - this is closely related to the stuff in the thread 'story continued'
Few things to play with.
How 'realistic' can you picture a woman coming up and talking to you and being flirtatious. Can you picture a real place you go to, a realistic woman. Does the system "let" you even do this? Or if it does, does it turn it into fantasy. Real picturing vs. fantasy is an important but deep distinction -- we talked about this a lot @ the bp but the short answer for these purposes is, one actually triggers the system and one takes all the grit out of it and says 'ok well this is just a fantasy, go nuts, b/c this shit is never going to happen anyway so i don't have to react.'
Can you picture it and have fun with it and feel good? We did this all day when we were young. If the mind immediately chimes in with it's stupid what's the point, etc. - think, it's like 30 seconds out of your fucking day to exercise your imagination and maybe feel some positive emotions, how bad is that really
When you picture or even start to picture it, what happens in your body. If I say picture a delicious meal in front of you, you probably have some fun, your mouth might water. There isn't as much 'bullshit' around the topic. What happens to you when you picture things in this topic.
When you focus on the 'fact' (and there IS truth in it, not denying it) that women, culturally, approach less, they don't do it here, it happens more in other countries -- does that give you a hit of satisfaction? Does it take the "edge" off of something? If so there is a more underlying thing that the edge is being taken off of.
Say it and picture it = fall into your lap, in more cases than not (but NOT zero by the way) is useless to you.
But visualizing and statements etc ARE very powerful tools when used correctly for real inquiry/inner work which I hope the direction of these examples hint at a bit