You're kidding.

Or...just don't.

I would be indifferent with other girls, but not with my girlfriend. I might show some indifference with her in some cases,

I do agree, that indifference isn't necesairy a permenant state/thing. More often it's not, and people who started off indifferent get attached.I'm not sure it's something one can prevent, and not sure if one should always try to prevent it from happening. Although feeling of pain/loss can be involved when losing indifference and getting attached.

Hello fufe,

i would be indifferent with other girls, but not with my girlfriend. I might show some indifference with her in some cases, cases where i sense that she overdid something or crossed the line. But otherwise i don't see any reason for indifference in a relationship.

Don't forget that this is not any girl, she is your girlfriend. This means that (in comparison to your relationship with other girls), your relationship with her should have a stronger bond, more caring and emotions. Indifference doesn't really fit in here, at least not always.

So i would suggest that you ask yourself whether you really care about this girl. If yes, then i think you have to show that you care, i'm sure you yourself won't be happy if she was indifferent with you all the time. If you don't care about her, then may be it was good for the relationship to end.

Best of luck to you mate.

Just think of the trees: they let the birds perch and fly, with no intention to call them when they come and no longing for their return when they fly away. If people's hearts can be like the trees, they will not be off the Way.

I do agree, that indifference isn't necesairy a permenant state/thing. More often it's not, and people who started off indifferent get attached.
I'm not sure it's something one can prevent, and not sure if one should always try to prevent it from happening. Although feeling of pain/loss can be involved when losing indifference and getting attached.

No offense, Barca...but fufe, DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS.

I am VERY indifferent with my keeper...doesnt mean I love her any less or show less affection. Just means that I understand that I have no control over what people decide to do and am at peace with that. If she were to leave me today, I truly wouldn't even flinch. Ironically, I'm sure it's this mindset that keeps her around lol!

Maybe you are confusing indifference with apathy?

Besides, she's not his girlfriend...she DUMPED his ass.

Fufe lost his chick because he was INVESTED...then, when she dumped him, he tried to ACT indifferent, which made the situation worse for him because it wasnt genuine...THATS what happened.

All of the unknown variables you listed about my keeper and I have no bearing on the effectiveness of being indifferent in a relationship, period.

...and what do you mean you can't see where I disagreed with you? You said to not be indifferent with your girlfriend...and I said your girlfriend is who you need to be indifferent with the most...looks like a obvious difference of opinion to me.

Hopefully, one day it'll all make sense to you and anyone else who doesn't 'get it' yet...I hope with all my heart that it does.

If i for example have a relationship with a beauty queen (young, very attractive and has very good chances with men), and at some other time another relationship with a very normal woman in her mid or late 30's (not young, not that attractive, and might see me as her best possible choice), you think i can be equally indifferent to both, with equal affects?

Don't forget that this is not any girl, she is your girlfriend.

Thank you, 'Grinus.

You're selling yourself short, Barca...as long as you believe that it will always be YOUR reality.

As far as your example goes, I've been on both sides (sometimes simultaneously) and have been just as indifferent...I really think you are confusing indifference with apathy. You sure that's not a possibility?