Natural Freedom

Yo guys, I kind of came across something last night that I thought was a little fucked up but you can use it as proof that this does not work. Since summer started I spend most of my weekends working very late at a bar. I enjoy working because I get to chill with hot girls all night. We constantly flirt with each other and it's always alot of fun. I notice two girls in particular that seem to be really into me. I guess you could say there jockin me. Anyway, last night the one chick kept messing around with me telling me she wants me to stay at her bar and all this stuff like she's going to keep me here so I can't leave or something like that, but gave this look that was very sexual. I instantly got turned on.

So the night went on and I kind of started feeling myself getting drawn to her. What ended up happening was absolutely nothing. A vibe was there that this girl is ready to go out to my car and fuck right now, then as soon as I started throwing back this vibe, it just died. This kind of puts me at a wierd spot because it seems like it's so easy to be able to hookup with these girls but it's not happening. I'm not being pursued like I know I should be. I don't over analyze at all or try to figure out what went wrong so I'll leave it up to you guys.

Any thoughts?

This is part of your problem...you just gonna let other people THINK for you as well?

Take a stab at it at least.

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Basically what I came up with was I pushed her away a little by showing interest. that's it lol

You were an ego boost for her...once she knew she could have you she was over it.

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ouuuchhh lol

kidd what do u do in that situation?

That'll cost ya.

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...read the signature.

what made you think she wanted to sap your value initially?

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Yuppers

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A wise man once said "I find that a duck's opinion of me is influenced by whether or not I have bread."

the way I see it is: you needed to be more indifferent. When you have the indifferent vibe:
it doesn't matter if I have sex with this girl or not- that turns bitches on.

Of course this isn't a technick it's inner core work.

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more patience

Maybe I'm fucking wrong, but I think girsl in bars are mostly there to boost their egos.. I never met any of my girlfriends/playmates/whatever in bar or club..

you are not entirly wrong. Most girls are there to boost their egos and for some girls it's a sport to reject guys. But I said 'most' because there are exceptions.

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You don´t have to flirt with girls at all to
be together. It´s a way of beingness,
not doingness at that point. Sometimes
girls don´t bother to flirt at all, it doesn´t
mean that you are not going to end up
together.

Not my experience yet, but I have a friend
who was just about to go to sleep when
a girl climbed in (2nd floor window I think(?))
and fucked him.

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Thanks for the feedback. Women are fucking strange dude and I feel like they are all the same. There was just a moment last night where it was like, yeah this girl definitely wants to fuck me, she probably does too, but whatever I'm not trying to play a cat and mouse game with her. Like you said, it's almost like a sport to them to boost their ego. No thanks not interested.

This is very true, you never wanna give girls what they want...by not flirting when they're flirting it will actually make them crazy!

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The honey doesn't chase the bee.

A wise man once said "I find that a duck's opinion of me is influenced by whether or not I have bread."

hahaha nice

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My opinion towards flirting. It's not alot of fun, at best it's a little bit of fun. From what I have seemed to notice in general, most girls seem to get way more fun/enjoyment out of flirting then I do/men do.
I only like flirting very much, when I do know it will (almost certainly) lead to sex. Flriting without sex, for me isn't satisfying at all.
Therefore I in general, try to do some "testing" when a girl is flirting with me, if she is for real. Those tests are in general things like: standing/sitting close for a moment (does she pull back or not?); stroking her arm or hand (does she pull back or start participating), and stuff like that.
The above I'll usually "try" twice if necesairy. If she participates and/or doesn't pull back, she is usually for real and I feel I can relax about it (leading to sex). If she pulls back twice and/or doesn't partcipate at all (yet does flirt), I'll usually conclude she isn't for real and stop participating in her flirting. The above are not really set rules, since for me my gut feeling plays a role in the decision also.

To add. Flirting is imo, often more about ego boosts then about getting it on. It's more about affirming (for girls) that they can/could attract someone or get attention from someone, while for guys it's often more about getting affirmed and being able to show/tell others (buddies) that they have a hot/cute girl that finds him attractive/cool /interesting. Since I've noticed guys only brag about hot girls flirting with them, yet never about an ugly girl flirting with them. So if guys really find the act of flirting so enjoyable, they would like to do that fun activity as well with ugly/fat girls, I would assume?
To ask. Beyond vibe, was there more coming from her? Or did you test for? Did you or she try to initiate anything (remotely) physical?

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