Yesterday I met with a female friend of my, so I used this situation to conduct a little experiment just to assure myself that I am on the right track. I remembered what Kidd wrote about his girlfriend reactions when he got emotional so with few hours I had yesterday I tried to do the same and opposite.
We sat down in the pub, started talking - at that time I was just observing, very little words came out of my mouth, I let her talk. I felt grounded in my body, was 'in the moment', grounded in it. after like 2 minutes I started noticing her signs of jocking me, leaning towards me, closing proximity between us etc. Then I decided to act like I used to - plenty of chatter, I was in my head, not really connecting with her - to no surprise all jocking stopped:D I did it two times in a row just be sure. Later that night I just did what I did at first just being there and having fun, not doing something 'to prove' anything. As we went out of the pub she grabbed my hand, started jocking like hell, sex chatter etc, she told me "you're a male" lol not a man, a male:D
So what I did was just changing my inner state, my behavior changed but not that much, on the other hand her responses changed dramatically. Another observation I got (which is probably obvious for You guys) looking at other people in that place, is that alcohol is not making people doing stupid things, it basically bypasses the conscious filter they got. That's were all this aggression/slutty behavour/etc comes from.
Nicely done, and thanks for sharing!
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