you know ever since we had that thread about sexual attraction vs. physical attraction, I have been thinking and observing and now something I was not aware of before, is coming up...
I see women with good looks and perfect bodies which are not sexy at all - don't have a sexual vibe. On the other hand I see women with nice face, not perfect body (maybe not so thin) and yet they are more sexual and have a lot more sexual vibe. Hmm
but here is the real catch 101:
who decided that 'theose women' with the perfect bodies are sexual?
the social matrix. It tells us that sexy women are: A, B, C, D
like: have a skinny body, usually Blond hair, light skin and etc...
The social matrix also says how sexy men should look like but when you look back (I think about 100 years ago) being chubby was the ideal look (at least for men I'm not sure about women). But I'm sure that skinny women were not beautiful back then - if a woman was skinny she was considered sick or poor\low class (she is skinny because she doesn't have enough food to eat)
I used the above as an analogy....
Now it's not that I never see sexy skinny women or that I never see a sexy Blond girl. I'm just strating to see a different paradigm of reality of sexual attraction vs. physical attraction.
interesting...
Here is an example: I love Asian girls, and this girl is skinny, has a great looking face (if you like Asian beauty), yet she has a lack of sexual energy\vibe (according to the photo)
Edit: looking back I have passed a lot of opportunities with sexy girls who wanted me and I passed because I was 'influenced too much'. by that I mean that I thought:
well this woman\women are sexy and I feel attraction for them but they don't have the perfect body (accoring to the matrix) so maybe they are not so sexy after all, and then I turned them down and was chasing the ideal (the ideal beauty of the matrix)