Natural Freedom

Hey guys here is a short story some of you might know this or had this happen to them

So I had this female friend let's call her Laura, she has not been in touch with me for about a year and a half (and we used to be friends). So I guess at some point she didn't care about me that much...
I deleted her phone number and deleted her from facebook.

Today I get a call (after a year and a half):

Her: Hey Sniper how are you? we have not talked in ages we need to meet, I missed you...

Me: who is this?

Her: it's Laura, what you forgot about me?

Me: yes I guess so... I have not heard from you for about a year and a half.

Her: that is so rude, what's wrong with you? I was very very busy.

Me: Ok whatever

Her: listen we need to meet I have something importent to tell you.

Me: actually I'm very busy at the moment and I don't think I'll have time, so what is it?
(I no longer have any motivation in what's so ever to meet her)

Her: Ok, I'm getting married in two months!!!

Me: congratulations

Her: I really want you to be at my wedding and I'm making the guest list. The wedding is at XX (date). Are you coming?

Me: nope

Her: wow that's really harsh

Me: Look I have not heard from you for a year and a half so obviously our friendship don't matter to you. So I lost intrest in you And I'm not going to be a cheque...
('being a cheque' is when someone does not care about you but only invites you to his wedding so he can get another guest- that's because each guest brings money and so the more guests he has - the more money he has to cover the event- that's how weddings parties are in my country)

Her: in that case have a nice life

Me: I'm already having a great life esp. after I stopped talking to you
(and then I hang up the phone)

silly bitch, she thinks I'm going to be one of those suckers -a cheque for her wedding party.

edit: when a girl has not talked to you for a long time and then one day she calls you and says 'she missed you'- there is usually some hidden agenda. don't fall for that shit..

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Not that it was so hidden... hint; money dinero moolah.

Something else would have motivated me to go though;
more social contacts.

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I don't think I need social contacts from her. I'll find social contacts someplace else without having to bring a fat cheque

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

That is perfectly ok. Follow your bliss.
"The life you ought to be living is the life
you are living."

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I don't think you had to go all terminator on her Sniper...lol If you get mad at a chick (When you told her you're not a cheque) they know they've gotten to you. In most cases if a girl is being a douche then being aloof and acting like she doesn't matter is the plan...but don't get mad, because then they know they have you. This happened to me tonight, and what I did (pretty much nothing, ignore mode, "Oh yeah? Cool" "Nah, just busy") gets to them more than telling them to fuck off.

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The honey doesn't chase the bee.

A wise man once said "I find that a duck's opinion of me is influenced by whether or not I have bread."

I liked the way you handled it in this circumstances, Sniper.
People can say anything they want about you, but not that you're an hypocrite like 90% of the people. To add, I disagree with this.
Because. Since he doesn't care about her, nor any other aspect related to her. Why would you then even go as far as considering how she may think things like: "I know I've gotten to him". Her opinion/thoughts are total irrelevant now, then why even spend 1 second to think about that or take it into consideration?Or even taking 1 second to consider, what to do so "to get to her" more?
Every second done that, is a second wasted in a circumstance like this. imo.

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That's the thing, you don't give a fuck in the first place...so who cares

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The honey doesn't chase the bee.

A wise man once said "I find that a duck's opinion of me is influenced by whether or not I have bread."

Scarface, I see we are on the same thought

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

Thanks Sniper for the regurgitation. I love looking at these types of situations.

However, your behaviour here is very similar to the matter of the other girl who was lambasted by you. You seem to 'care' what she thought, or how she was playing you. With the first girl, you exposed your fear to her for being a 'reserve'. A substitute who will now do. With this girl, you exposed your fear of being a 'cheque' as you call it.

Notice a pattern here Sniper? Yes. It is your pattern of thought. Ultimately culminating in your pattern of behaviour.

What you have forgotten is that you are a bright, attractive, creative and resourceful individual. You, at your fullest potential, can run a nation, a business empire and even.... your own life. This is the reason why you will never ever need a woman. This is the reason why if a woman doesn't call you for a year and a half, you are not likely to care. You're too busy tending to the fantasia that is your life.

You are like Mastercard. Reserved only for the best.

So the moment you tell a girl that

You have clearly displayed that you are not Mastercard. Sssssstop it.

Remember; you are worth millions.

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Sparkling All Over

good point Scarf, thank you

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"a sniper is the worst romancer, he never makes the first move"

I'm really diggin that man, so true.

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"Simply put, you being in her life is a BLESSING. Her wronging you in any way is her own self-inflicted CURSE, and if she does wrong you, then let the punishment fit the crime. Her life will absolutely SUCK without you."