We have been raised by our moms, our moms were good to us (or at least did their best....).
Now could it be that when we grow up, a part of us wants to find a woman that will give us the same feeling that our moms gave us?
or in other words: could it be that we were 'conditioned' to feel good when our moms gave us good feelings and then even though we see that no woman will be like our mom- we are still searching for those good feelings our mom gave us in other women?
can you relate to what I'm saying?
As in pavlov's dogs ^^ Your mom has done so many nice things than now when you see a woman you "salivate" for all the nice things - you have been conditioned to think - she would do to you therefore your need of them ?
What if your dad was also good to you ?
Is it because you don't treat yourself as good as your mother treated you when you were younger so you always seek someone who will treat you better ? -> BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND
Sure can...AND NO OTHER WOMAN YOU WILL MEET HAS GIVEN BIRTH TO YOU.
Now...can you relate to what I'M saying?
So the woman who gives birth to YOU (not you Kidd, just for the exemple
) can't be imperfect ?, and the woman you "choose" can't be too (because you expect her to be as your mother), so the problem is you looking for perfection in your life ?
What if your mother didn't treat you well, abandoned you, drowned you (well you wouldn't be here ...) would you still seek for the same kind of feelings ? Don't think so, you will also look for someone who treats you well ... so your linking good feelings and your mother is YOUR choice ...
Because a part of you still believes that women just can't be the
imperfect beings we have proved them to be...can't help you with that, mate.
Imperfect as in self-interest driven ?
Mothers aren't perfect man, everyone is still guided by self-intrest...EVERYONE
Isn't anyone NOT guided by self-interest ?
By these two quotes, it means nobody is perfect, so everybody is perfect (even in their imperfections)
Other way to look : when you're imperfect, you see nothing as perfect, but when you are, you see EVERYTHING as perfect.