I let the seed grow.
Believe it or not. I figured it's a bad idea because it comes from a position of weakness. If I want to know someone's name then it means that the person has value to me, but if I don't remember the name then it means that person has power over me because I'm attached to the signifier of the person, the name.
If I guess and don't know the person's name because they haven't told me then they are not interested in me knowing, and I am attached to the idea of person or the actual person in this case rather than the idea in the other case.
I just figured something out. When girls kick that ask me shit they're telling you that you have their permission. They have the power when in reality this is a stupid idea and the exact opposite of what they want and need.
In my experience, girls are really staunch. It's so much my way or the highway shit rather than letting things be.
If I'm mirroring their staunchness then I have to kick that permission shit to myself and to them?
Edit: I don't give myself permission to see my staunchness
Why wouldn't I give myself permission
(rofl) I laughed at myself after I typed that rhetorical question, but it's still a good avenue to persue? How to give permission to myself?