Hey Kidd and Grinus,
I have been doing a lot of observations lately and tapping into my subconscious mind. Now I hit something. It's a bit hard to put my thoughts into words but I'll try...
whenever I see a woman and feel something I observe it and now after practicing it for some time I can observe things on a 'micro level'.
So I noticed something... I already thought about it before and spoke to Grinus about it but now it has hit me on a much deeper level than before. So I want to share and then ask a question...
We already talked about the fact that a man has two instincts in regards to women:
1. the sex instinct
2. the Protective & nurturing instinct
http://www.naturalfreedom.info/viewtopi ... =17&t=1528
Now since most of us were raised by our moms and women in general (some had a nanny, we all had female teachers in school in our young years, in kindergarten and etc...)
Now even if someone grew up hating his mom, his teachers and etc...deep down there are always some good memories and now I think that it serves like a 'pavlovian effect'.
Let me explain (or at least try....)
when you were young and you did something good- the mother, the teacher, the nanny, the kindergarten teacher and etc.. would give you a good feedback. And then you felt good...
when you were young your mother made you your food and took care of you (that is, for most of us anyway...).
So could it be that now when we see a woman that has certain traits And does something for us (it doesn't have to be something physical it could be even a smile)
that it serves like a 'pavlovian effect'?
by that I mean that we are not always conscious of it.
for example: you saw a woman with certain traits and she even did something nice for you. Even just gave you a nice smile...
Now, your subconscious links that to that good feeling you got when your mom, kindergarten teacher, nanny or school teacher did something nice for you OR gave you a good feedback when you did something good...
And all of a sudden you feel there is something in this girl (like she activated something in me but I don't know what it is....) and people who don't understand think it's attraction\love\bond\connection and etc?
I'm having a really hard time putting this into words so if you need me to clarify my question please tell me.