There is one person that has a lot of what you talk about.
Emperor Palpatine, he appeased egos. Always in the shadows no one was ever aware of his influence until it was too late. He had patience as well. He let his own passion and emotion drive him drawing his energy from inner resources.

Fuck these bitches . There's a time to shine but this isnt that time. . I identify much more with the Sith I guess. They seem to embody more of what you told me.